Accepting that your relationship may be failing is not only hard and painful, but also very tricky. But if you are thinking about breaking up, then there’s a definite chance that you may actually go through with it. Being the one with the intentions to break up can put a lot of stress on your system and even cause depression if managed incorrectly. Even though you may not feel the same way as before, the last thing you want to do is make your significant other suffer. It is very important that you understand that there is a big difference between giving up and knowing that you have had enough. When you give up, you no longer care about your partner’s needs, thoughts, or wants; it’s as if you have become numb to your relationship. Having enough is trying everything that you can and still not feeling satisfied or like you’re getting what you deserve. Several things in general tend to happen when the relationship is deteriorating:
– Physical contact hardly ever happens
– Phone calls and texting decrease to a bare minimum (good morning texts, good night calls)
– You prefer hanging out with friends than seeing your partner
– Seeing them feels like a chore
– Everything about them bothers you (their jokes, physical aspects, habits)
– When thinking about the future, they don’t seem to fit into your plans
– You gradually stop inviting them to social activities
– You find yourself interested in meeting new people
If any of these seem applicable to you, then there are a lot of things you should ask yourself before making any decisions:
Do you love this person today? If so, do you just love them as a person or are you in love with them? Is it possible to regain interest in your relationship? Maybe you have outgrown each other and are now on different levels in the relationship and because of this it may seem hard, even forced, to connect with each other. When that person is not with you, do you actually miss them or are you just accustomed to having them around? This can be a huge sign that you are delaying a break-up out of fear of being alone. If you feel happier when they’re not around, then you need to break up.
Trying to figure out what the problem is can take up a lot of time, but what’s even more time-consuming is knowing the problem and not wanting to accept it. Everyone relationship is different and every couple manages this topic differently (be it with a break, a total break-up, or an open relationship). No matter the method, the most important thing in the decision-making process is that YOU DO IT FOR YOURSELF and for your happiness.