It’s the one thing we’re not meant to admit. You can say how much you want to pass your degree, to make good friends and have ‘the time of your life’ at university. And after graduation, a chic flat in Clapham and your dream job. But a relationship? It can sound so needy. The truth is a lot of girls come to university looking for love. You’re not the only one. But what happens if your final year comes to an end, and there is no dream guy to run off into the distance with? HCX explores five important things to remember if you’re graduating from university without a boyfriend.
1. The end of university doesn’t mean the end of your love life. In short, graduation is really the beginning. Of course, Exeter is a great place to mingle and meet, and if you’re lucky enough to find a keeper then well done. No really. Because for most single ladies (lets be honest here) it seems that guys more often have ‘sex’ than ‘relationship’ on the top of their list.
This breed of boy exists in the jock-type you can find tumbling around the top floor of Timepiece. After a couple of doubles, it’s easy to miss the vomit on his shirt and also fail to notice that he’s already gone home with a girl that evening, only to come back to the club for a second round. Although that’s a pretty obvious no-go example, the boys-who-won’t commit populate every friendship circle and lecture theatre. And just when you think things are going well with the new guy you’re seeing, he’ll stop texting back. The truth is, guys want to make the most of the plethora of beautiful girls around campus. There’s no wonder that relationships are so hard to spark and mantain at university.
The good news? With graduation, you’ll be leaving the incestuous atmosphere of campus, and these boys will grow into men. Snapbacks and rugby stash will be replaced with a sharp suit. After university he’ll be more interested in you as a future girlfriend than just an impressive one night stand. Too bad you’ll have moved on by then.
2. Stop focusing on the big things. The pressure of getting into a relationship is often caused by yourself. I was amazed when my friend admitted that she had always imagined meeting her future husband at university. And another friend revealed she was considering a post-graduate course so that she can prolong the time to find her man. I’m still hoping she was joking! But in all seriousness, this attitude will definitely stop you from finding the path to love.
3. Don’t fall into the trap… The worrying thing is ladies, guys are cashing in on female end-of-year-neediness, in what is known as the gold rush. In other terms, the frenzy at the end of university which causes girls to lower their boundaries. Even if you’re frantically trying to find romance in those last weeks in Exeter, don’t lower your standards. It’s likely to just end up with one big regret lying next to you in the morning.
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4. New chapter, new change. There could be another reason why you struggled to gain first-class relationship success at university. Cast your mind back to Freshers’ week in your first year. You’re once again a girl whose body hasn’t been exposed to the back-to-back alcohol infused nights. You’re feeling good with a summer glow and you can’t help but pick out the best from the ‘never in a million years’ . Are you the girl constantly trying to grab the hall’s hottest guy? Or hoping that your new good looking ‘friend’ will somehow become your boyfriend?
If you answered yes, the chances are you’ve had the wrong mind set from the beginning. There is always a danger of acting too desperate. Too obvious. This can make you appear more like the girl he wants to take back for the night instead of taking home to meet the parents. If you’re spending too much time keeping track of your little black book, then you need to ease off. Starting your new life venture after University can be your chance to refresh your attitude towards love. Slow down and don’t expect too much. The right guy will appear when you least expect.
5. You. But there’s no need to panic when it’s just you and your dear Ma and Pa in the graduation photos. Maybe you’ll find your soulmate on a travel adventure a few years down the line, or end up falling for a colleague on your first day in the office. (Queue raunchy office romance). Maybe it will be the sexy stranger on the tube. Or you could always bump into the gorgeous friend from your university days who never appeared romantically interested in you. Love will catch you by surprise.
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