It’s always the same thing: a girl meets a boy, the boy asks for her number (and they may even hang out); but, then he mysteriously stops talking to her and leaves her confused and frustrated. Every female collegiate has probably gone through this at least once. And, needless to say, it always sucks. You have probably thought to yourself that “maybe he didn’t get my text” or “he’s probably very busy,” just to self-assure that everything is okay. Guys may be hard to read sometimes, but they’re not that complicated. There are signs that show that he may just not be into you.
He doesn’t bother to contact you.
Phone calls, text messages, Facebook, email…nothing. Since the last time the two of you hung out, you haven’t heard from him. Usually, if a guy is interested in you, he will put in the effort to at least send a “Hey, what’s up” text. That’s better than nothing. But if he hasn’t bothered to talk to you, and it’s been over a week, you should probably have a hunch that he won’t be hitting you up on the cell anytime soon. And whatever you do, do not text him…and definitely don’t ask him why he hasn’t texted you.
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You text him anyway…and you don’t get a response.
If you managed to swallow your pride (and not listen to my previous tip) and text him, and he hasn’t texted you back, then this is definitely a red flag. A guy who likes you will probably look forward to receiving a text from you, and will even respond relatively quickly. If he deliberately doesn’t contact you back, just don’t bother trying.
He forgets everything you told him about yourself.
If you’re talking to him about your life, your hobbies, and/or what you want to do after graduation, you would think he would at least remember one of those things right? Guys who like you take mental notes about the important details you share, so he can bring them up into conversation later. If a guy isn’t remotely interested, why should he bother remembering what your intended major is or what sports you played in high school? It’s not a good sign if you have to keep repeating things to him.
He flirts with other girls…in front of you.
Let’s say, you see him at a party. You’re about to go talk to him, until you realize that he has already locked eyes with a pretty blonde—and makes his way across the room to talk to her. This leaves you awkwardly standing there, feeling like an idiot. Needless to say, he probably already forgot about you and already looking into seeing another girl.
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He completely avoids you.
Using the same party scenario, imagine yourself going to talk to that guy. He sees you coming, and deliberately walks the other way. The whole night, you see him, and he doesn’t even make eye contact with you. Wait a minute, didn’t he pull this same number whenever you saw him walking to class? At this point, you should realize that this childish behavior is unattractive and not worth your time.
Sometimes, guys can be real jerks. You may think that the first guy who appeared charming and interested may want something serious with you. But unfortunately, not all guys are like this. If you pay attention to the basic signs, you could prevent getting too attached to the stereotypical college “bro”…and, hopefully, find a new guy in the near future!
Until next time,
Aphrodite