I have a very serious question. Part potentially serious feminist issue, part weird social practice: what will from hereon be referred to as the “Everything But” rule. Where was I when it was decided that having “actual” sex is something that has the power to make a girl into a slut (depending on how often/ with whom/ with whose boyfriend/ ex-boyfriend/ guy some other girl has had a crush on forever), while doing “Everything But” is a way to stay non-slutty? (NOTE: I am not arguing that girls who do “Everything But” should also be defined as sluts, just that girls who have “actual” sex with the same people and /or frequency as the “Everything But” girls shouldn’t automatically be called sluts.)
In simpler terms: I don’t care where he puts it, and neither should anyone else. If you want to have sex, but are scared that it’ll magically make you into a slut, rejoice, as that is stupid. This is where the quasi-feminist aspect comes in. Obviously, guys are not offended by girls sleeping with them. I’ve never heard a guy say “If you have sex with me, you’re a slut, so I don’t want to have sex with you.” Never. It’s other girls who are calling you a slut; most likely girls who aren’t having as much sex as you. And then we take the opinion of others (“if you do this, then you must be this) and repeat it like a broken record in our own heads despite its falseness.  SO, ladies everywhere, I will repeat my argument:
1. Having sex does not make you sluttier than doing other things.Â
2. If you want to have sex, have sex.Â
3. (For the most part) Guys aren’t calling you a slut, other girls are.
3b. Does your sex life really have anything to do with what that girl in your sociology class whispers to that other girl in your sociology class?
4. You can also get STDs from “Everything But” (Just a friendly reminder; be safe y’all).
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