Hey Holly,
I went to a party with some friends a couple of days ago. It was fun until one of my friend’s boyfriend tried to hit on me. He was more than flirty and he wasn’t drunk compared to his girlfriend who doesn’t have a lot of memories from that night. My friend and her boyfriend have been together for over 2 years and she loves him very much. Should I tell my friend or just forget about it? I don’t want to hurt her, but at the same time, if her boyfriend tried to do me, I doubt he is faithful towards her…
Thanks,
Faithful Friend
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Dear Faithful Friend,
These shady situations are never easy to deal with, especially since this case could bring on a ‘he said, she said’ dilemma. Before letting your friend know, directly confront her boyfriend and let him know it was unacceptable and listen to what he has to say. As much as you don’t want her to be with a sleazy person like him, the fact is it’s your word against his and there’s not proof he’s ever been unfaithful towards her. If you see him act in the same manner towards anybody else or yourself again, point it out to your friend. If it’s a recurring behaviour, she probably already has her doubts. When you sit down for your one-on-one chat, put emphasis on the fact that you have her best interests in mind. Expect that she might feel resentment and frustration when you initially tell her, but know it probably isn’t directed towards you. If she is as good a friend as you are to her, she will be grateful for your honesty, even though she might need some time to cool off.
Good luck!
Holly
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