“I really like this guy I’ve known for a while. How do you feel about girls asking guys out or girls making the first move?”
Hmmm this is a good one. For the purposes of this blog, we’ll say that “making the first move” is a girl directly asking a guy out. To be honest, when it comes to girls making the first move, it’s all about balance. If a girl comes on a little forceful and pushy, maybe even slightly demanding, this is an instant turn-off and red flags will be raised. On the opposite end of the spectrum, if a girl really likes someone, she doesn’t have to wait around forever. She can drop the subtle hints and maybe even ask him out.
Guys spend a lot of time thinking about asking the girl they like out, and frankly, it drives us crazy sometimes: “Should I go for it? Should I not? What if she says no?” So think of it this way. Imagine if we didn’t have to worry about any of that and instead the girl we we’re crushin’ on just says, “hey wanna grab some dinner?” or “wanna get some coffee?” This is gold. Mission accomplished. There’s not much better than a nice girl coming up to you and asking you out on a date.
So ladies, here’s my advice, if you like the guy and he is just not making the move, be bold, be confident, know yourself and go for it. Although he is a guy, he is still just a human being. But before you go run and ask your crush out for dinner, remember a few things—first, don’t be pushy, forceful or demanding. For example, don’t back the guy into a wall and demand that he goes on a date with you or else. Obviously, you gals probably won’t do this, but also stay away from any variations of this. Secondly, tone is everything. It’s going to take some confidence and boldness to ask a guy out, you can’t be too aggressive, but you still want to own your request.
If a girl I was interested in said to me, “wanna grab dinner this Friday night?” in a confident, casual, and friendly tone, and really owned it, but was gentle, I would most probably say yes and be really stoked about it. Actually, I probably would have a mini celebration.
If you really like the guy, quit waiting around and make a move, be yourself own it, don’t force it and I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
One love,
Ryan