Hey Heather! A boy I don’t like just asked me out seven times repeatedly. He’s super persistent. What do I do?Well, first we need to keep in mind that you are either a goddess the likes of which have never been seen on campus before…or this boy is in desperate need of some gatorade. Seven times? This guy is definitely not a quitter. Either you are terrible at saying “no,” have been speaking to him in a foreign language, or this boy needs to visit a hearing specialist. If he asks you out again, give him a firm, solid rejection that he can’t just ignore (openly shrieking at him in a public space will work-and probably make you a Campus Celebrity!) If you for whatever reason feel bad for this dehydrated child, you could say you would prefer to be his friend…and maybe you two might actually become really good friends in the future. Kim got a Vogue cover, anything’s possible.
Hey Heather, I’ve been dating a girl, (we were best friends before) and I’ve realized I’m not attracted to her. Is there any way to get back to being what we were before?
If she has feelings for you still, this friendship could be hard to mend. That said-don’t string this poor soul along. Imagine you are cappuchino songstress Ariana Grande and break free (REFERENCE!). You might have to give it some time until you can go back to being friends without either of you wanting more. Ultimately, you’re going to have to defer to this girl’s feelings and act accordingly. If you want to hang out with them, though, do so with a group of friends instead of one-on-one so it doesn’t feel like you two are still dating, or give her the wrong impression.
Hey Heather! My boyfriend and I are going to different universities. Are there any tips or advice you could give me to keep this relationship going?
Long distance relationships are hard, but they’re not impossible! First, I would suggest both of you discuss your feelings for one another to see if you’re both on the same page. You should both be making an equal effort to talk to one another (and if possible, visiting each other from time to time). Try finding a set time that you talk to each other every week so you can catch up and spend quality time together.(Editor’s note: if you’re sexually active, sexting will be essential to keep you from losing your mind. And Skype. Skype > everything.)
Hey Heather, I really like someone in one of my classes and I want to ask them out for Valentine’s Day but I’m super shy. Any tips?
Talk to them! Bellydance your way to the seat next to them! Grab their attention by feigning a seizure on their desk! Or if you want to be more conventional, make an effort to sit near them and strike up a conversation about class or maybe compliment them. Then, ask them what their plans for Valentine’s Day are. That way, you can find out if they already have a valentine or if they’re busy. If they’re free, you can ask them if they want to do something. Confidence, confidence, confidence! (Also, you can’t go wrong with a cute and funny card). Being intimidatingly good looking is also always a solid help.
If it doesn’t go well, don’t fret, Valentine’s Day is just like any other day of the year. You can’t go wrong with spending it with your friends, or the 17 cats you will definitely end up turning to for solace should you be unable to pull off a date.
Hey Heather! I’m in first year of my program and I’m not sure if I am cut out for it. What do I do?You should reconsider all the things you’re interested in and figure out whether there’s another program you can transfer into. Or take a minor! That way, you can test out two fields and choose the one you like more. Ultimately, I suggest you talk to a counsellor who can give you a list of alternatives.
Hey Heather! Do you have any study tips and tricks for midterms? I’m really trying to get into a good work ethic.
First, make a schedule. You should study over a consistent week or few days instead of cramming all the night before. Be specific with your schedule. Set an hour or two to get a chapter of studying done. A timer will help you keep on track. Then, actually go through with your schedule. Remember: 30-minute breaks work. Don’t surpass that though. If you find you can’t get off of social media, try using something like getcoldturkey.com. Also, of course you can check back here after reading week for an article on how to slay your exams like Beyonce slays her inferiors.
HCXO!Heather