As summer comes to an end, warm weather begins to dwindle down along with summer flings. Couples infamous for posting kissing photos and statuses confessing their love for each other are now taking stabs at each other through Facebook and playing sad songs on their snapchat with a “mood” caption. If you’re going through a breakup don’t ever think it’s the end of the world. It’s going to hurt but there are so many ways you can ease that pain and mistakes you can avoid making.
- Surround yourself with people who care
This tip is always given out because it actually helps. Being around people you can laugh and have great times with can without a doubt ease or completely erase heartache for a short time. It’s nice to cry happy tears for a few hours rather than sad tears. Go see a movie or sit on your friend’s couch eating your favorite food. It really helps.
2. Delete those pictures
Out of sight out of mind. It’s impossible to begin the healing process if you see your ex every time you unlock your phone. It’s okay to keep the prom and group pictures but it would be a good idea to delete photos that are too intimate or drown you with a flood of emotion. If you can’t bring yourself to do this, download a free keepsake app. It lets you store photos that can only be viewed with a password. The photos will at least be hidden if you can’t bring yourself to completely rid them from your storage
3. Don’t remain friends with your ex
So many of us think we can easily be friends with our ex’s immediately after a breakup. It works for some people but realistically if you’re heartbroken it’s best not to do this. Continuously talking doesn’t give you the time you need to heal on your own. You never want to be in a situation where the ex you’re still in love with asks for advice on how to talk to their new crush. It may be hard to ignore someone you once had a connection with but give yourself time to heal and then maybe consider being friends. Your heart will thank you in the end.
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4. Never make someone else a rebound
Don’t jump into a relationship simply because you think it will help you get over your ex. I’ve done this in high school and it really doesn’t help anyone. Sure it may distract you but what’s worse than being with someone and wishing you were with someone else? That’s right, hurting another person for your own personal benefit.
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5. Don’t try to be “friends with benefits”
Self-explanatory, I don’t think this needs a long explanation but it definitely needed to be said. Don’t do it.
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6, Avoid venting on social media
The best way to vent is with people you trust. Not on a public forum unless you’re okay with strangers knowing you’re in a vulnerable state. If you don’t want to talk to someone get your feelings out on paper. Write a letter or poem to your ex then rip it up. It’s a great way to release any pent up feelings.
7. Do or watch something you love
Once upon a time when I went through a pretty serious breakup I spent a lot of my alone time watching Disney movies, Miranda Sings on YouTube and writing music. It made me feel happy when I was tired of crying and reminded me that I could find happiness on my own. Don’t make the mistake of getting wasted every night or making harmful decisions to numb the pain.
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8. Cry
Don’t ever feel like crying makes you weak. It makes you human. It’s okay to spend a few nights sitting in front of the tv, eating ice cream and crying your eyes out. Take some time to really analyze the situation and realize it’s over but eventually you will be okay. Holding in your emotions is completely detrimental to your health in the long run.
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