I’ve personally dealt with my fair share of ‘emotionally unavailable’ men. While dealing with the desolate truth about these guys, I realized something important: All of my college friends were dealing with unavailable men – well, for the most part anyway.
I think we all know the guy that seems to have it all. He is attractive, gets along well with everyone, and seems to NEVER have a girlfriend. He seems to be best friends with every girl on campus and is obviously available. That window of opportunity is open, but there is one very important thing to remember: these guys do not want a girlfriend.
These guys are emotionally unavailable. This means that even though he has all of the qualities of a great guy, he feels no need to have anything more than a friendship with any of the women in his life. This doesn’t mean that he is a bad person; it just means that you are unfortunately wasting your time.
The first step is to recognize who these guys are in your life. It’s important to take inventory of all of your current relationships and figure out which guys seem like they’re looking for more than just friends. If he hasn’t given you or any other girl any signs of interest, than chances are that he is not looking for a relationship.
Once you have identified the emotionally unavailable men in your life, it’s time to move on to the next phase of this plan. It is important to now understand that if you are not capable of being around someone without feelings, you should not spend any time with them. If you are able to force away those feelings of interest, than you can continue to be friends. However, the majority of us have trouble keeping our feelings at bay.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to cut your losses NOW. Take the time to evaluate the relationship and see if it is really worth having that person in your life. Either way, move your interest onto someone new. Your time should be dedicated to someone that actually deserves it.
The fact that he has no interest in you does not mean that you are unattractive, undateable, or unworthy. It just means that you are not the right girl for him, and nothing that you say or do will make him want a girlfriend. Pay attention to the signs that all point to him being single and unavailable. It’s time to gather all of your confidence, and let it shine through. You’ll find the right one.