Okay ladies, it’s time to get these men in line. I don’t know where they came up with all these rules and stipulations to the bedroom but, it’s time they heard what we have to say. First things first, the bedroom- or wherever you like to get better acquainted with your man- should be fun. Sex should never be a chore but with some of these misconceptions flying around about women and sex, getting to the fun part is hard. So listen:
I want sex just as badly as you do: Obviously, if we’ve taken it there already I’m clearly attracted to you and comfortable with you (the two most important aspects of sex in my opinion). So don’t be coy!
I don’t necessarily need you to last all night: Sometimes, I just want to get to the climax and be done. There’s no need to prove that you can go for hours-especially if we aren’t new to this.
Your manhood alone isn’t going to make me fall in love: Perhaps the most common and annoying stigma about sexual relations. Just because you made me cum does not mean that I’m going to start planning our lives together. In fact, it’s not the penis that’s gets a woman hooked but the personality that comes with it. Some of you may like a man who delivers in the bedroom and never lets you forget about it, others like to get it poppin’ and keep it moving, to each is their own, every woman is different. But trust me, there is no woman planning weddings, and picking out names for your future kids if all you have to offer is penis. It’s 2016, there’s good dick everywhere.
I’m probably down to try that new thing, just ask first: Okay, so this goes back to that comfort thing I was talking about. Your girl is probably willing to try new things in the bedroom if you let her know first. I’m not saying you need to have a full blown lesson plan ready but, a heads up would be nice.
Listening is sexy: Just hear me out. I’m all for the strong dominant male who likes to take control, but let’s be honest, getting that same dominant to follow direction can be just as much as a turn on. Also, these men need to know. Every woman is different so, that move you think works on every female, doesn’t. So don’t be afraid to take direction and please don’t get offended when she disses your “go-to”. Remember, nobody likes a selfish lover, and should you be lucky enough to have a girl who isn’t afraid to tell you how she likes it, just follow suit and keep your ego in check.
I know I’ve barely scratched the surface on this topic but at the very least I hope I’ve left you the tiniest bit inspired; inspired to let these guys know what’s up. Now obviously, if your man leaves weak in the knees and doesn’t play any of these games, then kudos to you- I hope the rest of us experience that kind of luck one day. But, for the rest of us who sometimes have to deal with this nonsense, stay strong, speak up and get your man in check. Happy Hump Day everyone!