Well guys, I did it. I had a sloppy college one night stand.
I’ll be honest, it wasn’t what it was all cracked up to be. I mean, it had all the expected elements: we met on Tinder, we picked a public place to meet, awkwardly talked about our lives, and then we went back to his place.
Wham, bam, thank you sir.
However, there were two main issues with the situation.
The first mistakeㅡ which all Tinder users should be weary ofㅡ  was meeting a complete stranger from the Internet. There is a lot of danger involved with being vulnerable with someone you don’t know, especially if that someone is firstly depicted by an internet presence. Horror stories are all over the internet about hookups gone wrong. Luckily, my experience wasn’t horrible.The guy didn’t catfish me and he was gentlemanly in more ways than one (if you catch my drift). My advice is to make sure your friends know your location and who you are meeting with. This is a safety precaution that is absolutely necessary, especially if you are in a city that you are not familiar with. This does not insure your safety; proceed with caution.
The second, and probably most emotionally detrimental mistake, was choosing to hook up after a nasty breakup. My ex-boyfriend ended our relationship in a series of drunk textsㅡ right after he forgot my birthday. What a  jerk, right? In my mind, I felt like I could only get over my breakup by sleeping with someone new. Like magic, one random night was suppose to erase months of heartbreak. But it wasn’t that easy.
Anyway, my intentions were skewed when I randomly decided to meet this dude. I thought, in my emotional state, that the motto “the best way to get over someone is under someone else” was the way to go. But in all honesty, I personally would prefer my future sexual encounters to be with a person that I actually like, not just want to bang.
I say this with no shade towards people who prefer one night stands. I am a HUGE proponent for sexual freedom, particularly for women. I respect those who take charge of their sexual needs using safe practices. For me, the hookup wasn’t that bad. I made sure to practice safe sex- something that I encourage with a vehement passion. He was nice enough, although the awkwardness associated with the whole situation made me more than uncomfortable. The whole night was more of a learning experience than anything else.
Now I know that hookups are not my cup of tea; but we never know what the future holds.
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