He was a great guy. He was caring, loving and sensitive to my thoughts and feelings. He motivated me to do better and to be the best version of myself. He made time for me and called every day. We had a relationship that was full of honesty and trust. We knew everything about each other. We would read each other’s minds and finish each other’s sentences all the time. It was nice knowing that I always had someone that was there for me and would never hurt me. It was the kind of relationship people dream of having. Of course the relationship wasn’t always great, we had arguments but we would always work it out by talking about it and coming up with solutions to fix the problem.
Everything may have seemed picture perfect from the outside but on the inside things were slowly starting to fall apart. I became very unhappy with the relationship. Every time we saw each other I left feeling stressed and upset. I shouldn’t have been worried but I was. I felt hollow. Something was missing between us. We had a connection in the beginning but we just weren’t connecting anymore. I questioned our relationship constantly. I wondered if he was the right one for me. It didn’t feel like he was. Looking back now I realize he was never the right one and we would have been better off being close friends. But at the time I couldn’t see that. I was under the impression that because he was a good guy and treated me right it meant we should be together.
Logically it made sense but emotionally it didn’t. We lacked passion, chemistry and a deeper connection. We had stability and cared a lot for each other but it wasn’t enough to keep us together. We eventually broke up. It was hard but I felt an instant relief. I knew I made the right choice. He might have been a great guy but he wasn’t the right one for me. I realized that it’s okay to break up with someone that you care about but isn’t right for you. It doesn’t make you a bad person. You should never feel forced to stay in any relationship. If it is making you unhappy you have the right to leave. I know we can never achieve the perfect relationship but we should never settle for less. We should be with some who we feel passionate about and who cares about us. We shouldn’t have to choose one or the other. I may have given up a good guy but I know I made the right choice.