My ex boyfriend is coming to town and there’s a possibility he may end up wanting to crash at my place. There will definitely be drinking involved and even though we are still friends, I don’t want to be around it/him while that is happening. How do I tell him that without damaging the friendship?
I always think honesty is the best policy. Just let him know that you’d love to hangout while he’s in town, but you aren’t comfortable doing that when there is alcohol involved. Depending on how close of friends you are and how comfortable you are talking to him, let him know you don’t like the person he becomes when he drinks. He may not realize how much he changes after downing a few and that might help him as well. Definitely don’t do something you aren’t comfortable with so let him know in advance that you aren’t able to house him. That way he (hopefully) won’t show up unannounced at 3am. You said you guys are still friends so hopefully something like that wouldn’t damage the friendship. If that does happen try not to dwell too much on it because he doesn’t see your worth as a friend.
How do I tell my parents I want to change majors and go into a completely different field? They want me to stay in the medical field because of the pros that come with it but college has made me realize that isn’t what I want to do. When I have voiced my concerns in the past they have written me off but now that I have to make a real decision how do I tell them I’ve already made mine?
This is tough especially when your parents are trying to drive and control your future. Parents are great at helping us get through life as kids but it sounds like your parents forgot to hand over the reins when you went off to college. You never want to dilly dally in college because that just means you’re spending more money and no one likes doing that. You have voiced your concerns in the past but have you been completely honest in telling them this IS what you’re doing? Try sitting them down with all the information you have on the major you would be changing to and why you chose to switch. This time don’t tell them this is just something you’re thinking about but this is the decision you have made for yourself and you hope they will be just as supportive as they were with your previous major. I wish you the best of luck!