We all go through hard, stressful, and discouraging times. It can be so hard to bounce back from these events, especially when your mind brings out new problems and guilty feelings because of the stress in your life. It can be so hard to turn off these daunting thoughts, but we all get them, and I’ve come up with some counteracting thoughts to help talk yourself out of it and help you feel better.
I’m telling too much others – Sharing our thoughts and feelings with people we trust is one of the most important things we need to do as humans. Bottling up what’s going on in our head only leads to emotional breakdowns and even more problems down the road. The feedback we get when sharing is what brings us clarity, so to not do so would not help at all. If you feel like you’re bring a burden when you share, consider this: the person you’re talking to cares so much about whatever you’re going through that just listening to you and being with you makes them feel better as well.
I’m being lazy – When your life is hectic and there’s so much going on, there are going be things that fall to the side. And that’s okay! It’s okay to hand in a homework assignment a little late because you couldn’t focus at the time. It’s okay to skip out on seeing your friends because you just need to be alone. Again, it’s all about communication. You’ll be surprised at how understanding others can be since we’re all human. Give yourself time to heal and process, then you’ll feel so much better getting back to your normal routine.
I’m going to feel this way forever – You’re not.
Time heals everything. You will be okay again. It might take time and there may be bumps in the road, but nothing lasts forever. Whatever is going on in your life is temporary, even if it doesn’t feel like it. Even if it doesn’t fully “go away” or “get better,” it gets easier. You deserve to feel it get easier. Hold onto whatever hope you have.
This week is Suicide Prevention / Awareness Week. There are so many people who consider suicide to be the answer to life’s problems and a way to escape. This isn’t the reality. Help is out there. If you or someone you know is feeling this way, please seek help. National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255.