When I learned we were going to read Jane Austenâs Pride and Prejudice in my Literature Humanities class, I let out a sigh of reliefânot because itâs one of the few women-centered works in the class, or because it was definitely the only one Iâve read before. Through the love interests of the protagonist, Elizabeth Bennet, Austen offers all of us some valuable romantic lessons:
George Wickham: Appearances Can Be Deceiving
When Lizzie first meets Wickham, sheâs understandably enamored by his Zac Efron-esque appearance and scintillating conversation. However, she takes care not to be too charmed by his smooth talking. Though her attraction to him initially clouds her judgment, when she learns of Wickhamâs true characterâa compulsive liar, gambler, and a bad friendâshe isnât afraid to change her opinion. Lizzie learns, as should we, that when it comes to romance, we have to judge others based on what they actually do rather than what they say. Props to herâWickham is so hot, I donât know if I would have been able to do the same.
William Collins: Donât Say Yes Just Because You Think You âShouldâ
Lizzie meets Collins when he comes over for a family dinner. Thatâs right, theyâre first cousins. But their genetic connection isnât even the worst of it. Collins feels obligated to marry one of the Bennet sisters, and Lizzie is his target. When he proposes to Lizzie, he lists all of the reasons they âshouldâ get married: itâs a good economic and social decision for them both. However, Lizzie knows that her and Collins together would be a Level 5 natural disaster. With his ridiculous formality and poor listening skills, heâs everything Lizzie likes to make fun of, and she knows this would make them both miserable. So despite enormous pressure from Collins and her mother, Lizzie holds her ground, rejecting Collins again and again until he finally realizes sheâs not interested. The lesson here? Donât say yes to a relationship just because you feel like you should, or because you âoweâ the person. The right person will both seem right and feel right.
Also, donât date your cousin. Please.
Fitzwilliam Darcy: The Unlikely Romantic Ideal
Itâs safe to say that Lizzieâs first impression of Darcy is less than favorable.she thinks he acts like heâs too good for everyone (and frankly, he does). He also insults her appearance when he thinks she canât hear him, which of course doesnât help. Little does Lizzie know, however, that Darcy is actually deeply attracted to her, and when he proposes, he catches her entirely off guard. Though Darcy is my dream man, I have to admit, he goes about this all wrong: he insults her family, her status, and worst of all, assumes she will say yes. Couple this with Lizzieâs beliefs that he broke up her sisterâs relationship and ruined Wickhamâs career, Â you get the showdown of the centuryâLizzie rejects Darcy in the most savage way possible, telling him exactly why she canât accept his proposal. Later, Lizzie learns that Darcy isnât actually a terrible person, after all, and she begins to feel sorry for him. When he proposes again, she says yes.
However, the most important factor in their relationshipâs success wasnât that Lizzie realized how âmisunderstoodâ Darcy was all along. Rather, itâs because he actually listened to what she said to him,he got nicer and more respectful toward her family, and proposed again only after she made it clear that she had developed feelings. Darcy isnât hot because heâs broody and misunderstood (okay, maybe not only hot because of that), but because he cares deeply about Lizzie and is willing to change the behavior that makes her uncomfortable. He proposes to her when he believes she wants him to, rather than whenâs best for him. Darcyâs transition from rude to thoughtful and caring is one of the most satisfying in literature,and it proves that listening and genuine care is the sexiest attribute any romantic interest can have.
Whether you prefer to read the book, binge the BBC miniseries, watch the Keira Knightley movie, or like me, would consume all three within a day, Lizzieâs exploits make it clear that Pride and Prejudice offers some pretty great romantic advice.