Getting engaged is an exciting part of life, but there’s lots of things to consider before getting engaged in college. I have some first-hand experience here, as I am engaged now and plan to be married a year after I graduate and 5 months after my fiancée graduates. Before we got engaged, I did hours and hours of research to make sure that what we were doing was okay. In this article, I’ll go through everything that I thought about or that we talked about before getting engaged.
Make Sure You Both Want to be Engaged
One of the things I think people do not realize is that while the engagement itself should be a surprise, the idea of getting engaged should not be. My fiancée and I had talked about us getting engaged for a long time. All she knew was that we were going to be engaged before I graduated. So when I took her out on a date, she was none the wiser up until I popped the question.
Think about what you want in the future, make sure it lines up
When I met my now fiancée, I knew something was different about her. Since we are both engineers, we knew when we both graduated we could find jobs in the same location. This meant that geographically, our future was not an issue.
People can change a lot throughout life. Especially once you are out of college, there is no telling how people will be in ten years. I think that having an open and honest conversation about committing to each other for life is the right thing to do. If you don’t feel it’s the right time or you are unsure, it doesn’t hurt to wait until you are ready.
The Act Itself
One of the things that I did not see in my research had to do with the location. We live in a college town, where most of the population of the city was from the university itself. I knew that we would not want somewhere where we would be surrounded by people we knew. This meant we drove to the next town over, where the chances of being surrounded by classmates decreased drastically. Once I proposed, we could tell people at our own pace and wouldn’t be stared at because of what was happening.
I hope that you found these helpful if you were possibly thinking about getting engaged. Open and honest communication and respect are the key to balancing being engaged in college. Thanks for reading and happy lovin’!