How do you feel most loved? The answer to that question will most likely show what your love language is. Obviously, everyone has taken a buzzfeed quiz on their love language to figure this question out. Whatever your love language is, you know that is the type of love you tend to like to receive the most. In a relationship, however, It’s very easy to confuse your love language for your partners. You might assume that just because you like to receive love a certain way your partner must too. That’s at times not the case. It’s important to understand each other’s love language and cater to them as such. These love languages include acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, and physical touch; and only action based on these languages can really show your love for someone. Here are a few ways you can show love in whatever your partner’s love language is.
Acts of Service
This love language is all about how you are willing to ease any burdens of your partners. Anything you can do to make your partner’s life a little easier not only shows you are willing to unpleasurable tasks your partner is not looking forward to, but also you care for your partner and their well being.
Ideas:
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Get their car washed
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Help them complete work or school assignments
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Cooking dinner
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Help them study
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Finding solutions to problems
Quality Time
If quality time is your partner’s love language, undivided attention is probably an important part of the relationship. Obviously in every relationship having time together is necessary, however as a person’s love language, this just means going the extra mile to show you want to spend time with them.
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A quick coffee date before work
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Planning a date night
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Going on a staycation
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Surprise visits
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Going on a walk after dinner
Words of Affirmation:
When it comes to words of affirmation, just some compliments and here and there will not do. This type of person needs to hear how appreciated they are more than anything. This positive reinforcement is what will make them secure of their relationship.
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Writing them a love note
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Constantly remind them of how capable they are
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Compliment appearance and take note of new looks (ie. new haircut)
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Send them a text telling them you miss them
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A random call telling them how much they mean to you
Receiving Gift:
Receiving gifts is a love language many are skeptical of having, including me. It might seem like a very materialistic characteristic to have but in fact it’s not like that at all. It’s about the thoughtfulness of the gift and what the gift will mean to you. If your partner’s love language is receiving gifts, I can almost guarantee they are not expecting diamond earrings or anything extremely expensive every week. However, a little token that shows your love is what they will appreciate.
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Give them flowers, even if it’s a random flower you picked from a garden.
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Make them a playlist with songs that remind you of them
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Surprise them with their favorite food or any snacks
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Look into their amazon lists and order something they might want.
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Make them a photo album of your relationship
Physical Touch
This is probably the most common love language. Many actually need affection to feel loved, to feel like they actually mean something to someone. This goes beyond the day to day kisses and hand holding.
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Give long lasting hugs
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Rub your thumb against their when holding hands
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Attack them with kisses
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Offer a massage
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Brush through their hair
Whichever love language your partner responds best to, don’t stick to only that. Try adding a little of everything into your relationship once in a while. Showing all 5 love languages will strengthen the relationship and make it feel secure, so don’t be afraid to show your love and appreciation towards them. It’s an extraordinary feeling to know that you are loved.