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In Good Company

Nora Ingham Student Contributor, St. Bonaventure University
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at SBU chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

I find alone time especially recharging. 

Whether I’m running errands, grabbing a coffee, or enjoying a cozy night in, there’s something I genuinely enjoy about having time to myself. I’ve come to appreciate the little things that come with enjoying my own company.

There’s something nice about being able to go about your day at your own pace. You can stop wherever you want, take as much time as you need, and enjoy an experience without having to coordinate with anyone else. Sometimes, even the most ordinary errands become more enjoyable when you aren’t in a rush or thinking about anyone else’s plans.

I’ve also grown to love doing things on my own that I might have otherwise waited to do with someone else. Going shopping, grabbing lunch, or visiting a new place are all things I enjoy, regardless of whether I have someone to go with me.

I think spending time alone gives you the opportunity to get to know yourself a little better. You start to recognize the things you genuinely enjoy and what makes you the happiest. There’s a certain confidence that comes from realizing you can make an entire day enjoyable without relying on anyone else.

I think sometimes we get so used to sharing our experiences with other people that we forget how enjoyable they can be on our own. There’s no reason a good coffee shop, a shopping trip, or a day out has to be any less enjoyable simply because you’re experiencing it by yourself.

I mean, think about it, you don’t need someone sitting across from you at a coffee shop to make the coffee taste any better!

Of course, I love spending time with my friends and family, but I also think there’s something important about finding a balance between enjoying time with others and having time to yourself. To me, finding that balance is where real fulfillment comes from.

There is often this unspoken pressure to always be available and always have plans; you shouldn’t have to justify putting yourself first in order to maintain some “perfect” social life.  Having a fulfilling social life doesn’t mean you need to fill every free moment with someone else’s company.

Sometimes, it’s more about recognizing that you don’t always need to be doing something with someone else to have a good time.

I’ve learned to appreciate the quieter moments just as much as the days filled with plans. Sometimes, a night in is exactly what I’m looking forward to. There’s comfort in having time to reset, do your own thing, and not feel like you need to be somewhere or doing something.  

Sometimes, the best thing you can do is simply learn to enjoy being with yourself.

Nora Ingham is a junior at St. Bonaventure majoring in Strategic Communications with a minor in Marketing. She is from Horseheads, NY.

Nora is especially interested in topics surrounding self care, everyday life, fashion, self growth, and wellness. She enjoys writing about relatable topics and sharing her own experiences. Along with Her Campus, Nora is also a member of the Dance Team.

In her free time Nora likes to go on walks especially in nature, particularly anything moving her body. She enjoys watching movies, grabbing coffee, shopping, doing her makeup, and spending time with the people she loves most.