This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at USF chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

As the second semester of my junior year draws to a close, I want to reflect on some lessons I’ve learned throughout college. The past three years at university have been an up-and-down whirlwind, but I’m grateful for every moment because they’ve made me into who I am today. Now, for a few things I wish my freshman self knew as she began this journey.

1. stop doomscrolling on linkedin

Yes, your crappy freshman honors class will make you create a LinkedIn account and you’ll immediately want to connect with everyone you know on campus. No, that does not mean you should compare your freshman year’s beginning to someone else’s junior year achievements. Basically, I’ve found LinkedIn to be more useful as I have gotten a little older, wiser, and clearer about what my goals are. But as a freshman? It becomes a perfect swamp for brewing comparison and anxiety. If it brings you stress and disconnects you from a healthy mindset, then stay logged off.

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2. don’t force yourself into a role meant for someone else

During both freshman and sophomore year I became obsessed with becoming what I thought a “great student” was, even though it was costing me my mental sanity. There will be advisors and mentors who give you suggestions about what you can do with your life; keep in mind that those are suggestions—they don’t have to become your reality. People can try to help you figure life out, but at the end of the day, you get to make the decisions. You’ll eventually find the opportunities you are destined for. In the meantime, work hard in your classes and explore what you’re interested in!

3. genuinely follow what you enjoy doing

This is related to #2. I have found the most fulfillment in sticking to what I’m interested in, and creating a path towards that. I don’t have time to focus on what somebody else thinks I may like; I know what I want and that’s enough for me.

4. Stay curious

I’ve heard many professionals give this advice to students: Nurture your curiosity! Ask your professors questions after classes! Ask them questions in office hours! Ask your friends about their opinions on politics, philosophy, ecology, etc. The best way to stoke curiosity is by participating in activities that foster it. People love to talk, so ask a question or two and be ready to listen.

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5. Make the first move—professors, friends, opportunities, fun things…

This one is difficult. It’s awkward, I hate it, but making the first move has opened up so many doors for my future career, for my friendships, and for my experiences. Ask the questions, make the inquiries, take the initiative. You’ll be happy you did.

6. YOU CAN LEAVE AT ANY TIME

This is something I’ve been working on, and only recently been implementing. So, you make the first move with a friend and get invited to a party or get together that, honestly, is not all that interesting and you’d rather waste time at home watching Jack Ryan or The X-Files. Babygirl, just get up and leave. No one is going to judge you for being tired or not feeling up to staying. You’re not obligated to spend a whole evening with people who you’re just not clicking with. So grab your stuff, and head home.

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conclusion

While there’ve been many lessons I’ve learned, these are some of the most notable ones. I have truly had a wonderful time in university, and I’m looking forward to an amazing senior year to finish it off.

Oh, and to my younger self, P. S. beware group projects. The horror stories are real, and it’s going to happen to you. Love you!

Meditations on University