We’ve all had moments where we look back and think, “ I shouldn’t have taken that class,” “I shouldn’t have befriended that person,” or “ I shouldn’t have done that.” Maybe it was a friendship that faded, a class that felt useless, or a period in your life that felt stagnant. But the truth is, nothing is ever a waste of time. Every experience, even the ones that don’t work out, is preparing you for something greater.
When you take a step back, you understand how each chapter connects. For example, I took both an intro to business and an intro to international affairs the fall semester of my freshman year, in the hopes of combining to make an international business major, and that’s where I found out that I liked studying international affairs better than business. I thought to myself if I wanted more business experience then I would get an internship instead of continuing with the major…And it worked out exactly that way; I ended up getting a marketing internship two summers after. I am more of a humanities and social impact person. I found the discussions and work done in the international affairs and political science classes harmonized with the goals I have for post graduate.
Transitioning, the job you didn’t like might have helped you realize the kind of work environment that does help you thrive. It makes you think about what kind of manager you want. That friendship that fell apart could have shown you how to set boundaries, how to communicate, and highlight the values you do want in a friendship. Not every relationship is permanent, and that’s okay. I like to think that every person came into my life and left at the perfect time. Does it hurt at times? Yes! But along the way you find people who align with who you are becoming better than your previous friend ever could. Sometimes meeting new people can make you realize what genuine love and support is like, and maybe the previous friend did love you, but couldn’t love and support you in ways you needed. That doesn’t mean there was no value in those previous friendships – it just means they have fulfilled their purpose and now it is time for you all to continue on your separate paths. Find the people you are compatible with; just because they’re nice doesn’t mean that you are compatible.
Moving on, even during the quiet seasons, where it feels like nothing is happening, teaches you patience and self-awareness. Growth isn’t always loud. The lessons that shape us the most are in the background, when no one’s paying attention. They happen in moments of confusion, heartbreak, or failure. Those times are uncomfortable, but they make you into a stronger and a much wiser person.
All of 2025 has been full of hell and blessings for me. Yes, that may sound funny or unexpected, but it’s true! I can tell stories for days. I am far from the person I was when I started at Skidmore. At times I could have turned into a cold person, but I chose patience, kindness, and grace. When life tries to harden you, please do not give in because that’s when you’ve lost. I am more self-assured and confident. I take challenging classes because I like the feeling of growth and proving to myself that I am more than capable to do whatever I want.
Looking back, I’ve realized that things that I thought would make my life fall apart were actually part of the path. Every experience, good or bad, builds your character and deepens your understanding of who you are and what you want.You might not see the purpose right away, but later you’ll be able to connect the dots and realize it was never a waste.
So if you’re in a place that feels uncertain or unproductive right now, give yourself grace. You’re learning (and that’s what your 20s is about!), even if you can’t see it yet. Trust that it will make sense one day.