There’s a huge expectation in college culture that your roommate is supposed to become your built-in best friend. Social media, campus tours, and even older students make it seem like you’re meant to find your future bridesmaid the second you move in. And yes, having a roommate who becomes your best friend can make the college experience feel easier and more fun. But the truth is just as important: it’s perfectly okay if that doesn’t happen.
Many roommates simply coexist, and that’s a totally valid way to live. What really matters is mutual respect. Coordinating cleaning schedules, keeping shared spaces tidy, communicating about noise, guests, or study time — these small things create a comfortable environment without requiring a deep emotional bond.
Sometimes, it might feel awkward. Maybe conversations don’t flow naturally, or you have different lifestyles, or you’re not sure how friendly you’re “supposed” to be. But awkward moments don’t mean your living situation is unsuccessful. They just mean two strangers are adjusting to sharing one small room.
Being polite, friendly, and considerate goes a long way. You don’t need to force a friendship — checking in occasionally, respecting boundaries, and acknowledging each other’s routines is enough to maintain peace and allow both of you to thrive.
College is full of pressure to find your people, but your roommate doesn’t have to be that person. They can simply be a person you live with — not your automatic best friend. And that’s not only normal, it’s healthy.
Having your own friends, your own routine, and your own space outside the room is completely okay. A great roommate situation is built on respect, not forced closeness.