We are young adults, and we are supposed to have it together, be strong and make it look easy and fun.
But a lot of us our still these little kids who never healed from their childhood trauma. It is okay to come to this conclusion and be honest with yourself. Life wasn’t easy for you, and you felt a lot of pains that you feel a child should not have too. You’re angry unstable and so much more. I do not know what you experienced, and you should never feel like you are required to tell anyone about the things you felt. What I do know is that it’s okay for you to begin healing your inner child. You can let go of the pain that others caused upon you.
Healing the inner child- It seems like this hard task but there are ways to go about it.
You could write a letter and express your thoughts- How you’re feeling, how you could use support and in what ways, and what you need to feel more secured.
DO NOT feel discouraged from this. Sometimes we need to get our feelings down on paper to make it easier to communicate what we think and feel.
Come one with yourself and start practicing in self-care behaviors-
Do yoga and meditate and see how much more centered you will begin to feel when you let go of all the pain and emotions that hurt and are toxic. Usually you’ll discovered that you have a lot of buried emotions that are a burden on you.
When you can begin to do these actions then journaling will become another outlet that you can use talk about whatever you want however silly it may seem. Just write it down let it flow out of you onto the paper and SET YOURSELF FREE OF EVERYTHING
Let yourself spend money and spoil yourself… leave the door open to experience new feelings and let your healing occur at it’s on rate.
I just want you to know, you’re not alone in this.
I have had to practice these same steps and some days I struggle more than others. I have to understand that the hurt that was inflicted on me as a little girl was then, and this is now. My life is more than the sad little girl who cried every time she heard yelling or every time, she felt she disappointed someone. I get it, I know it changes you and makes you be this person who you cannot even recognize anymore. You’re just simply seeing yourself as the version that pleases everyone and is obedient. This is your life and you do not have to let anyone control you anymore whatever helps you mentally grow do that and stop letting the hold that individuals had on the child version of you determine what the adult version of you does. It is scary but it is necessary as long as you love yourself and see the best within in yourself, I know you’ll be okay:)