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Kiss & Tell: Love at First Type

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UVM chapter.

 

With all the social media today, it’s easy to feel like you’re getting rejected at every turn. Whether it’s texting, Snapchat, Facebook, Twitter, or even Tinder (you know you were thinking it)- they can all make us crazy.  So it’s important to remember a few things:

It’s just a conversation

Really, it is. Just because it’s a guy you’re talking to, does not mean you need to begin second-guessing every word you type. Sure, you might want to put a little more thought into what you’re saying, just to make sure you are coming off as someone he could potentially see himself with, but trust me—he is not reading into these texts nearly as much as you are reading into your own.

If he’s worth it, he’ll like you for you

… and no one else. So why act like anyone but yourself? Have FUN talking to him. Get to know him on a not-so-serious level first. If he can’t joke around with you, then you might not want to be with someone like him. Also, he’ll figure out who you truly are in the long run, so don’t waste time being anyone different.

He’s only a guy

Boys and girls are light years apart when it comes to this kind of stuff. Before we start overanalyzing each text that he took over an hour to respond to, we need to come to terms with this sad truth. Just because he is not glued to his phone does NOT mean he isn’t into you.

Communication is a two-way street

If you feel like you are the only one putting in any effort, maybe it is time to analyze. Look back and check out how many times he has contacted you vs. how many times you have contacted him. If the findings don’t make you feel so good, then don’t put in any more effort. Chances are, he’ll realize he misses talking to you. If not, onto the next!