Everyone knows one of the most nervous aspects of a relationship is when it is time to meet the parents. When a guy wants to introduce you to the parentals, it usually shows that he is serious about the relationship and can see your relationship being long-term. For those of us that are nervous about making a good impression, here are a few important things to keep in mind in order to make sure his parents approve.
1) They are going to ask you what you want to do for your career, so be prepared.
Most parents want their son to date a girl who knows what she wants in life or that has a plan. So when they interrogate you about what you’re doing with your life, talk about the things you’re involved in and how you’re working towards your dreams. If you’re in college, tell them what classes you’re taking and clubs you’re in. It is very important that you are doing something with your life. Even if you’re not in college, make sure that they know you are a hard worker and are not just bumming it at your parents’ house. Make it a point to talk about where you’re working and how you plan on providing for yourself in the future. For example, if you are only working at McDonald’s, you might tell them that you’re saving up money until you know exactly what you want to get your college degree in. Whatever you do, give them the impression that you are working hard to be financially independent and have a career.
2) Get ready to talk… a lot.
Let’s face it, there’s no hope in avoiding having a conversation with his parents. They want to find out as much as possible about the person their son is dating so do not be shy about yourself. Talk about your interests and what you do in your spare time. Whether it’s tennis, dancing, or reading, tell them about your passions. Also, be prepared to talk a lot about your own family. If you tend to have a hard time carrying on a conversation, don’t be afraid to practice a little beforehand. You can even Google really helpful tips on small talk. Here is just one site that explains why small talk is so meaningful and how to make it happen.
3) Be polite and show appreciation.
Nothing is more refreshing than someone who shows their gratitude. When meeting his parents, there are a few simple ways that you can show them that you are a caring and polite person. If you are eating dinner at his house, offer to help clean up and wash the dishes. If you go out to eat at a restaurant, thank them for taking you both out. Also, show do the little things to be considerate. For instance, take off your shoes when you go in so you don’t track mud everywhere or maybe even bring a little something as a host gift such as baked goods or flowers. Lastly, remember to say “please” and “thank you” for basically everything just to make sure.
4) Dress appropriately.
This one may not be the most important, but it definitely helps. Let’s be honest, parents would rather have their son date someone who dresses like Blake Lively. Don’t get me wrong, you should dress how you want to, just don’t make it seem like you rolled out of bed and put on whatever was the least dirty looking outfit in your laundry basket. Go for something casual yet put together. I would suggest a nice pair of dark wash jeans and a flattering top. Opt out of wearing spaghetti straps, short shorts, or low plunging neck lines. The more conservative, the better usually. Another important thing to keep in mind is to try to keep the make-up as simple as possible. It’s fine if you want to wear a little to polish yourself up or to hide that massive pimple, but the more natural it looks, the better off you’ll be. As far as hair goes, just make sure you brush it, wash it, and keep it looking healthy.
5) I know it’s obvious but… BE YOURSELF!
This seems like a no brainer, but it is the most important part of meeting the parents. There is no use in not being who you are. If your boyfriend accepts you for who you are, his parents will trust his judgment and will not criticize you. Show them what makes you exceptional. If you’re sarcastic and funny, be that! If you have opinions, let them be free! Be comfortable with who you are and it’s hard to dislike someone who is happy with themselves.