Recently, I hung out with one of my guy friends, who’s in a relationship. We all know how this goes. Did I mention he’s also annoyingly charming? Well long story short, when he left, I felt like I had just endured two hours of foreplay with no finish. I think that means he pink balled me? I thought about the way we interacted and realized I was being a total girl over the whole thing. Who cares if we flirted with each other? It’s harmless. Though it may have meant more to me, I’m the one who should have had a guard up. It’s not his fault he’s hot and happy with someone else. This mystery man also left me with the tip to write for women from a man’s perspective. I had all the material I needed after that little day date.
So here it goes. Cue the end to my career.
#1. They like to remind themselves they still got it. Sometimes when guys are in relationships for a while, they miss out on all the fun that goes into the chase of trying to land a new girl. Men are all about their egos, right? Well they may feel like a puppy with a tight leash if they don’t try and chase a few toys around here or there. Unless they take their new toys home with them, let him have some fun.
#2. Attention. Let’s be real – sometimes we just like to hear we’re attractive. Men, especially. They may love their girlfriend but sometimes “babe, you look sooo great today” just doesn’t pack as much of a punch as it does coming from a total stranger. Or maybe it just means more coming from that girl with double D’s? We’ll never know.
#3. It’s always good to have a backup. Alright I know how this sounds but we’ve all been there. You get a little too comfortable in your relationship and before you know it Saturday nights just aren’t as exciting as they used to be. Did you really sit through that entire movie? It’s nice to know the next time you want to watch the previews and the end credits, there may be someone out there worth “watching” that movie with.
#4. Maybe he’s just being nice. I know men are from Jupiter and women are from Mars and all that but guys are capable of having female friends. Mind = blown, I know. Girls, you don’t always have to freak out if your boyfriend is spending time with another attractive girl. If anything, feel more flattered that he still chose to come home to your pond after seeing all the other fish in the sea.
#5. Ego boost. Like I said, men are all about their game and the position they finish in (pun completely intended). If he’s attractive, he probably just wants to tease you. At the end of the day, we all like to feel wanted. Wanted by many is better than wanted by one so skip the third degree the next time your boyfriend has that annoying grin on his face like he does when he lasts for more than 15 minutes in bed.
#6. Upgrade. Just like men are with their cars, they’re similar with their women. It’s always important to have the next best make or model that’s available on the market. Men don’t want to ride just any old thing, they want to ride the best. The one with the leather interior or shiny roof job. I also realize how misogynistic it is of me to compare women to an object like this and don’t worry, I hate myself for it.
Finally, #7. What’s wrong can feel so right. I know it doesn’t make much sense, but sometimes the thrill of doing something you know you’re not supposed to be doing makes it that much more fun. When we do something inherently “wrong” we get a small thrill and a rush of endorphins. Plus what man doesn’t like to go into James Bond mode over a cute girl in yoga pants?
So there you have it, ladies. Men are only human and need a little attention every once in a while. As long as they’re looking and not touching, all is fair in love and war