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Build Each Other Up, Stop Tearing Other Women Down

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at SFU chapter.

We already know the injustices women have to face on a daily basis, such as gender inequality, sexism, and being stereotyped. However, we tend to overlook the injustices that women commit against each other. Why do most women hate to see other women succeeding? Why don’t we wish the best for one another?

We are living in a day and age where most people spend their time gossiping and badmouthing each other instead of having genuine conversations with each other. We’ve all been there before. Judging a woman by what she’s wearing. Looking at her hair and makeup and already making assumptions about her. Saying things like: ” She’s not even that pretty” or “Under all that make up is a…” or “People only like her because…”

Ladies, it’s time to stop bringing each other down and stand together. Why do we insult each other and talk about people behind their backs? Why does it makes us feel better to bring someone else down? Why do we compare ourselves? Why do we care who got more Instagram likes on a photo? Why are we secretly overjoyed when we see each other struggling?

Now don’t get me wrong…. competition is healthy, but if it means constantly insulting and bringing others down, then it’s by all means unhealthy. If someone’s failure is your joy, then perhaps you need to re-evaluate what truly makes you happy. Why shouldn’t one woman’s success be another woman’s inspiration?

Think for a minute, stop the pettiness, the jealousy, the hate, the insecurities, the envy. It only makes you bitter and hardens your heart.

We are not each other’s enemies, so don’t feel threatened by one another. We’re all on this Earth together and we need be supportive of each other.

We all suffer, so we need to stay strong and stick together. If we don’t have each other’s backs, who will?

Now no one is saying that you should go around searching for people to compliment, just keep your negative comments to yourself and stop hating. I urge you start focusing on yourselves, and thinking how you can better yourselves. Make yourself a priority and be more supportive of others and I promise you’ll feel better about yourself. You’re your own competition.

Born and raised in East Africa, Tanzania and Uganda. Edna is a 3rd year International student pursuing a major in Communication and minor in Publishing at Simon Fraser University. Currently doing a co-op placement at Simon Fraser University Career and Volunteer Services as a Special Projects Assistant.She enjoys reading, sports, theatre and karaoke. She is a loving mother to two beautiful guinea pigs named Amarula and Kahlua. She loves Cheesecake! She's a Social Justice Warrior Princess. Connect with Edna and follow her story. Instagram: @shineella96 Twitter: @shineella96 Snapchat: @shineella96