Is your relationship off balance? Do you ever feel as though you are losing yourself in a relationship that isn't really equal? The following tips will help you to regain some confidence, and find balance in your relationshi, or at least come up with some ideas.
Make sure you're not being a caretaker: Us ladies, often want to take care of oour boys. Sometimes we end up always doing everything for them. And that's just not right, even if it feels natural. Usually, we're the ones who organize all of the activities, and become the social director, so to speak. This obviously leaves you being the organizer for the both of you. The problems with this is that one, your guy can check out of the day-to-day details, and two, you've now made it so that he has no say. Make sure to manage your own individual activities, and let him manage his own and also have some say in the things you plan to do together. This way the decision is a mutual one, and everything is equal.
Make sure to maintain outside interests: In some relationship, ladies can get too wrapped up in their relationships and make their guy the main concern of their every day life. If this happens, you won't have balance in your relationship. Try to stay in touch with your old friends, and not to leave them in the dust just because you have a significant other. Also, stay active in outside interests. This way, you can have you time, and he can have time to himself. Little breaks are good for the both of you.
Just say no: Realize that you don't have to do everything your man does. And remember, that he doesn't have to do everything you do. If you bend over backwards to meet every request or need, you will lose control of your own priorities.
Draw a line in the sand: It's nice to try new things with your significant other. But go with your gut. If there is anything making you uncomfortable, go ahead and set some boundaries. If you feel like you are losing yourself in your relationship, talk to him and pull back. If the relationship is meant to be, he will understand and everything will go smoothly.
If you use these tips, then your relationship should most definitely remain equal. If you still feel like your relationship is unequal, talk to your guy and let him know. Discuss it, and try to work something out that both of you agree on. Wishing you all happy and equal relationships!