Let’s be honest, a lot of us aren’t always open with our current hook-up partners. If we were to be completely and unabashedly honest with guys (before or during a hook-up or relationship), what would we say? There are times when speaking up is necessary, and there are others when it’s better to keep the internal commentary to yourself.
I asked some Kenyon women what they want their boyfriends, hook-ups, and future love interests to know. From texting etiquette, to what not to say in bed, to how to grab a girl’s attention, Kenyon women reveal what they wish their guys would keep doing, improve on, and simply be aware of.
Although we may not all agree with each lady’s point of view, it’s refreshing to hear Kenyon women speak candidly about their expectations, needs, and desires.
Read on for a guide to what Kenyon women want to tell their men, but don’t always have the courage to say:
“On the weekend, contact me before 11PM.” – Senior
"Even if we've been dating for a year, I still care if you're the one to text me first sometimes." – Junior
“On the weekend, don't wait until the end of the night to text me to hang out. It feels like an afterthought.” - Junior
“Hanging out with you and getting to know you first would make the first time we hook up that much hotter. It doesn’t mean I want you to be my boyfriend.” – Sophomore
“When we’re at a party, come over to me… I don’t always want to approach you first.” - Senior
“Be upfront with me about what you want. It may surprise you that we’re already on the same page.” - Senior
“Be friendly regardless of whether your friends are around.” - Junior
“Don’t be too into it too early on in the hook up.” – Freshman
“I like it when you subtly show me attention in a public place… putting your arm around my waist or on my lower back.” - Senior
"If you want us, just show us. Don't be scared of rejection... be scared of never trying." - Junior
“Come visit me in the library because I will welcome the distraction, if it’s you.” - Senior
“Socks and open toed shoes is a huge turnoff (even if you’re just going to do laundry).” – Junior
“Running sneakers and ill-fitting jeans...please no.” – Senior
“A little bit of cologne is a huge turn on.” – Sophomore
“Never assume anything when you first hook up with me.” - Senior
“Kissing me on the forehead if I'm upset can be patronizing.” - Junior
“Never make me feel like I’m an obligation.” - Senior
"Sometimes we just want to hit it and quit it too." - Junior
“Don’t get discouraged if I ask you to do something differently when we’re hooking up… it doesn’t mean I’m not into it.” - Junior
“Let me show you how I like it. I’m very particular, so it’s hot if you ask what I’m into.” - Sophomore
“Don’t use a lot of tongue the first time we hook up.” – Freshman
“A little tongue is sexy but please don’t choke me with it. Lots of saliva is not hot.” - Sophomore
“Rip my clothes off… don’t make me take them off.” - Freshman
“I like it when you tease me a little bit.” - Sophomore
“Foreplay is my favorite part. Please make it last longer.” – Junior
“The clitoris should always be your first stop before venturing in.” – Senior
“Try not to change it up a lot when you’re fingering me. A steady rhythm will make me climax faster.” - Sophomore
“Don’t dig for gold when fingering (aka jackhammer).” – Freshman
“I want to come too. Please don’t give up if it’s taking a long time.” - Sophomore
“Don’t go down unless you know how to.” – Freshman
“I like it when you kiss me places other than the mouth. It keeps things exciting.” – Freshman
“Biggest turn on when we’re hooking up: using your mouth as you would your hands.” – Senior
“Manscape.” - Senior
“Make noise when we give you head, we’ll be more likely to do it again.” – Freshman
“Please don’t bring God up in bed.” – Freshman
“Two people that should never be brought up in bed: your ex and your mother” – Senior
“Don’t be afraid to be snugly. We like it!” – Freshman
“Let me take control of the situation.” – Sophomore
“Dirty talk is welcome.” – Junior
“That time you knocked on my door, didn’t say anything, and just kissed me… please do that more often.” - Sophomore
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