Step 5: Make Your Friend Your Priority
As much as we may like to, we can’t control whom our friends date. If you love your friend (which we assume you do), ask yourself this question: Has she been happier since she got into a relationship? If the answer is yes, then you have to focus on that and let animosity go.
Expert Advice: “You are not on this planet to teach your friends how to have better relationships. It's not your job or your place. Be there for guidance and support when called upon. Whatever you do, if the relationship breaks up don't say, ‘I told you so.’ Relationships are our teachers. Sometimes you have to go through the bad ones in order to learn what's right and good for yourself. Don't cheat anyone out of their own experience,” says Beyer.
In an ideal world, our friends’ significant others would fit perfectly into our friend groups and even become new friends of our own. Unfortunately, they don’t always fit that mold or meet to the high standards we feel our friend deserves. When this happens, ALWAYS keep your friend’s happiness your priority. The person who makes her happy may not make complete sense to you. Luckily, you’re not the one who has to be in your friend’s relationship!