Should You Stay With Your High-School Boyfriend in College?

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Walking up to the podium to accept your diploma, you imagine your life next year – freedom from your parents, beautiful collegiette campuses, joining a sorority. But it’s not all out with the old and in with the new. Graduating from high school can be bittersweet too, especially when it comes to your high school boyfriend. On one hand, maybe he is your first love and you have shared an amazing few months or even years together. On the other hand, 3000 miles of separation is no joke. Moving onto the next stage of your life, should you leave your high school boyfriend behind? What do you need to consider before getting into a long-distance relationship?
 
Can You Trust Each Other?
 
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In any relationship, trust and communication are important. But when in a long-distance relationship, being able to trust your boyfriend when he is out by himself or being able to honestly talk about problems that arise becomes exponentially more important.
 
Going to college is also a unique situation – freshman year, you will have the chance to meet all sorts of new people and have many new and different experiences. But because you aren’t together all the time anymore, you have to be able to come to terms with the fact that you won’t know every move he makes or every girl he talks to.
 
HC Contributing Writer Heather and her boyfriend started dating December of their senior year in high school but ended up going to college in New York and California. Seeing each other every couple of months, they were able to make it work until this past spring.
 
“A LDR is also 98% about trust. If there's no trust, on either, or both ends, you're setting yourself up for many ugly phone conversations,” she said.
 
Especially if your boyfriend is still in high school while you venture off to start collegiette life, it will be difficult to explain all of the new people you’ve met and the cool things you’ve been able to do without him feeling left behind or unable to relate. Vivian, a junior at Georgetown University, had dated her boyfriend for just two months before he graduated high school and shipped off for University of Michigan.
 
“The most difficult part was learning to understand that college life is very different from high school life and I had to accept that. When he went out, more trust in him and our relationship was required because it was a totally new lifestyle he was being exposed to that I knew little about,” she said.

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About The Author

Dawn Hu is a senior at Georgetown University majoring in International Economics in the School of Foreign Service. She is originally from Scottsdale, Arizona, but spent her high school years in New Hampshire. In addition to contributing to Her Campus, Dawn currently serves on the Board of Directors for The Hoya, Georgetown’s student newspaper, and was formerly the Senior Campus News Editor, as well. Some of her favorite things are frozen yogurt, eating out, spontaneous trips with friends, and epic Law & Order SVU marathons.