Virginity is a funny thing, isn’t it? In some contexts, virginity is treated as a beautiful, sacred quality or possession that women should desperately hold onto for as long as possible. In that context, virginity is something that makes a woman valuable.
Unfortunately, if you buy into that school of thought, it only follows that a woman would become less valuable, less special, less shiny and new after having sex for the first time. And since it’s practically inevitable that a woman will have sex at some point in her life, it’s only a matter of time until that tarnishing and tainting happens.
There’s another type of opinion though, too, one that is built on the belief that being a virgin is embarrassing or even unattractive, and consequently, a woman’s virginity should be lost as soon as possible. In this context, virginity is not something that is lost so much as something that is discarded or rejected.
Personally, I don’t buy into either of the above belief systems. I don’t think virginity is good or bad; I don’t think sex makes you impure or more attractive. I certainly don’t think virginity is the trait in which a woman’s value is rooted. All virginity means to me is lack of sexual intercourse. Sex is just another part of life, and that’s all there is to it.
Unfortunately, whether we like it or not, sex is a part of life that becomes larger and more important as we get older, and high school and college girls are the ones most affected by it. The pressure to lose your V-card can be overwhelming, and the consequences of doing so can be anything from the happiest day of your life to completely catastrophic. Ultimately, the decision to “give it up” lies with you alone.
So how do you know when the moment is right?