One Of You Is Graduating
Graduation is an exciting time in anyone’s life, but it can be a difficult transition for a couple. One of you is staying, and the other is moving on, but that doesn’t mean your relationship with each other has to end. Your schedules, time spent together, free time, attitudes, etc. will all probably change. The only thing that won’t (hopefully) is your commitment to each other. So what’s a girl to do?
- Have a Talk: Since one of you is making a huge change, it’s probably time to have an honest discussion about where you see your relationship going in the future.
- Be Supportive: Whether you’re the one graduating or he is, be happy! You will resent each other if this exciting time is only marked by sadness and arguments in your relationship.
- Include Each Other: It may seem as though you’re on completely different pages during this time, but it doesn’t have to be that way! Include each other in making grad party plans, choosing what to wear under your gown, which jobs to apply for, etc.
- Lean On Each Other: While graduation is exciting, it’s also scary. Be there for each other when you’re nervous about being apart, worried about finding a job, scared about the unknown, etc. It’ll make you stronger as a couple.
You Have A Packed Social Calendar
College life can get pretty crazy with the parties, the socials, the pre-games, etc. There is seemingly a party for everything, and it can get really busy. Even more so, you probably have to deal with your friends complaining that they don’t see you as much now that you have a boyfriend. You start to make plans with your friends on a more regular basis and before you know it, you barely have time for your boyfriend anymore. So what’s a girl to do?
- Plan Group Events: If you want to see both your friends and your boyfriend, plan events that everyone can go to. Tell your boyfriend to bring his friends too, and everyone will be happy. Just make sure you don’t spend every second of the night on your boyfriend’s arm.
- Operate On An ‘Every Other’ Schedule: For a little while, try to do Friday nights with your friends and Saturday nights with your boyfriend or vice versa. If this is too much to coordinate, then spend time with your boyfriend during the day or make it a point to grab lunch or dinner during the week. Seeing each other a little more here or there will make a huge difference.
- Make Your Time Special: We all have a tendency to spend time with people we’re comfortable with watching TV, catching up on Facebook, taking a nap, etc. We aren’t actually connecting with them. When you’re with your boyfriend, do something fun together so you actually feel like you spent some time together. That way, next time you can’t be together, you won’t feel like it’s been ages since you’ve seen each other.
There are plenty of situations that come up in a relationship, and some that are tough to handle. But if you anticipate these dilemmas, then you’ll be able to save your relationship before you even have a problem. Good luck, collegiettes!