In total, there were 43 people at our wedding and it was held in Tyler’s childhood home. After all the drama we went through together, I didn’t want to stress out about the wedding. I was the total opposite of a Bridezilla. I picked out a dress at H&M and did my own hair and makeup. The only detail that was important to me was that a picture of my dad was hanging on my bouquet. Other than that, I was just happy to be marrying the love of my life.
Prior to getting married, Tyler and I had already lived together for a year. I didn’t think getting married would change that much, but it has. I got a major job opportunity in California, but since Tyler was already planning on going to medical school in New York, I had to turn that opportunity down. I’d be lying if I said a part of me wasn’t sad, but my commitment is ultimately to my husband and the family that I hope to one day create with him. We have no interest in having kids for a long time. As of right now, we are just interested in being husband and wife.
I understand why people roll their eyes or ask a lot of questions when they see a ring on my left finger. I kept my last name professionally (I’m an actress), but I use Tyler’s last name personally and legally. I can feel people judging when I say the word husband, but, at the end of the day, I’m the one living my life. Some of my friends and me have gotten less close since I’ve gotten married, but none of my best friends. Tyler and I still make an effort to spend time individually and in our separate lives. He knows all my close friends very well and I know his, but they aren’t his friends and his aren’t mine. We are friends with a few couples and it can be refreshing to spend time with them, but we also feel that it’s important — especially since we’re so young — to spend time as individuals.
At this point in time, I am not sure what’s next exactly. I know we’re waiting a while to have kids. Tyler starts medical school in the fall and I just graduated college and am on the job hunt. I know that, no matter what, I have my best friend’s support.
