4. It might not be too late to apologize.
“Because the last time you saw me
Is still burned in the back of your mind
You gave me roses, and I left them there to die
So this is me swallowing my pride
Standing in front of you, saying I'm sorry for that night
And I go back to December all the time...”
– “Back To December,” Speak Now
You threw a low blow at your boyfriend during a heated fight last night... but now that you've had a chance to cool off, you feel awful. Your boyfriend deserves an apology, just like in Taylor's lyrics. (Note: Her Campus cannot guarantee the success rate of apologies sung outside dorm windows. For best results, try a face-to-face conversation.) You know the drill: march over there and tell him how sincerely sorry you are.
But not every situation warrants an apology. If the fight or break-up happened months ago, digging it up will only re-ignite hurt feelings. And if he's already moved on, so has the expiration date for the apology. (For the record, “Back To December” is most likely about Taylor Lautner. After the pair called it quits in December 2009, they didn't make any attempts at getting back together – some relationships should simply stay in the past.)
5. It's okay not to have everything figured out quite yet.
“Cause when you're fifteen and somebody tells you they love you
You're gonna believe them
And when you're fifteen feeling like there's nothing to figure out
Well, count to ten, take it in
This is life before you know who you're gonna be
– “Fifteen,” Fearless
T-Swift wrote this song during her freshman year of high school when she and her best friend Abigail both were dealing with heartbreak. “The thing about high school, you don't know anything,” Taylor said in an interview, “You don't know anything, but you think you know everything.”
Eight years later, it looks like Taylor is still figuring out relationships. It doesn't matter how old you are or how long it takes you to find love – it's one hundred percent okay to still feel fifteen, metaphorically speaking. So, when a guy totally stumps you or you feel like you're never going to find The One, don't worry. Everything will fall into place sooner or later
6. Say what's on your mind.
“Hey Stephen, I've been holding back this feeling
So I got some things to say to you
I've seen it all, so I thought
But I never seen nobody shine the way you do...”
– “Hey Stephen,” Fearless
Go talk to that one guy you've been crushing on forever. Best case scenario, you ride off into the sunset together and all your dreams come true. Worst case scenario, you learned how to be brave enough to speak your mind. That's not so bad, is it? Here are a few ways to jumpstart the conversation:
- Offer to study with him before your next test.
- Invite him to a party or a group outing.
- Ask if he wants to join you for coffee after class.
If you're already talking but you're not sure how to make things official, check out these tips on how to define the relationship. Good luck!
While the lyrics may suggest otherwise, “Hey Stephen” actually isn't about a former flame. Taylor penned the song in 2008 about her celebrity crush, Stephen Barker Liles of the group Love and Theft. In a dreams-come-true kind of twist, Stephen returned the favor by writing a song about Taylor! We wonder if any of Taylor's future musician boyfriends will do the same.