Taylor Swift may have four best-selling albums, six Grammy Awards, and eleven American Music Awards, but that doesn't stop her critics from endlessly harping on her for one silly thing: she has a revolving door of boyfriends. She's often portrayed as burning through a string of high-profile guys, only to turn each relationship into a chart-topping single. Her Campus doesn't see it that way – instead, we see a girl who's learning a lot about relationships as she grows up, just like us. Be thankful she writes so honestly about her relationships, because now it's our turn to steal seven major love lessons from her lyrics.
1. Trust your gut.
“Cause I knew you were trouble when you walked in.
So shame on me now...”
– “I Knew You Were Trouble,” Red
Some relationships are doomed before they even begin (Ahem, may we remind you of your last drunken hook-up? His name was... Jake? John? Jared? He never texted you back.) If a guy's bad rep precedes him or you just get a weird vibe from him, it might be best to save yourself heartbreak and avoid getting too involved in the first place.
Rumor has it that these particular lyrics were inspired by Harry Styles, who may or may not be Taylor's new beau. Come on, Taylor, we know you know better than to get involved with a womanizer like Harry. You said it yourself!
2. Leave the past behind.
“I remember when we broke up the first time
Saying this is it, I've had enough, 'cause like
We haven't seen each other in a month
When you, said you, needed space, what?
Then you come around again and say
Baby, I miss you and I swear I'm gonna change
Trust me, remember how that lasted for a day
I say, I hate you, we break up, you call me, I love you...”
– “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together,” Red
We know how tempting it is to get back together with your ex: you can't stop re-reading his old texts, you miss being with him, and – this is the clincher – he's begging to have you back. But before you jump back into the relationship, give Taylor's words serious consideration. Do you really think he's going to have changed? Will the relationship be better this time around, or will it eventually lead to another painful break-up?
Taylor supposedly wrote this hit about her on-again, off-again relationship with Jake Gyllenhaal. After a second attempt at a relationship, she said goodbye for good. If you're struggling to get out of an on-again, off-again relationship, consider a period of no communication until you've both moved on.
3. Break-ups suck, but there's light at the end of the tunnel.
“I've been spending the last 8 months
Thinking all love ever does
Is break and burn and end
But on a Wednesday in a cafe
I watched it begin again...”
– “Begin Again,” Red
You went through a pint (or two) of Ben & Jerry's, wore black on Valentine's Day, and declared that love isn't real. Those are all completely valid ways to deal with nasty break-ups. But before you swear off dating for the rest of your life, remember that you won't always feel so hurt and depressed as you do right now. One way to get through those low moments is to completely distract yourself from anything related to dating. Have a movie night with your best friend (no rom-coms allowed), call your little brother, or channel your mood into an awesome workout at the gym.
Need a little real life inspiration for finding love again? Check out Taylor's track record. After a summer fling with Conor Kennedy, she got back into the dating game with Harry Styles.