After a break-up, the last thing you want to hear is "cheer up!" when all you want to do is watch re-runs of A Wedding Story on TLC and cry. Let yourself process the emotional loss - breakdowns and tears are accepted as part of the catharsis. You should never feel pushed to ignore the inevitable pain. But at a certain point, when you're ready to take a hot shower and put down the box of tissues, here's how to get over the jerk who I hate for breaking your heart:
1.Plan a movie marathon
No The Notebook, no Titanic, and nothing starring Meg Ryan or Matthew McConaughey.
2. Get a haircut
Changing how you look changes how you feel. Plus you’ll have an excuse to go out with your new blow-out.
3. Change your scenery
No need to blow your savings on a long weekend in Hawaii (although…), even walking around a new neighborhood reminds you there is, in fact, life outside your bubble.
4. Treat yourself to a dinner with friends
Good food. Good friends. Enough said. You deserve it.
5. Clean your room
When you live in a sty you feel like a pig—clean up! It’s amazing what a difference a good vacuuming and a little air freshener can have on your mental well-being.
6. Listen to Ella Fitzgerald, Billie Holiday, and Etta James
You should be doing this anyway, but especiallyafter a break-up. Strong ladies with charm and soul make you feel good. End of story.
7. Plan your dream apartment
Nothing is more empowering than perfecting a space that’s all your own—planning a dream room reminds you how lovely it is to be a lady. If you don’t already use Pinterest for this, create an account and budget at least two hours to play. Following blogs like Apartment Therapywill be just that—emotional therapy.
8. Cook for yourself
The ultimate act of independence, cooking requires preparation, competence, and creativity. Plus, it’s hard to mope between bites of lemon Dijon salmon.
9. Get dressed up
When you look good, you feel good. Plus, on the off chance you run into He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named (yes, I’m comparing your ex to Voldemort…) you’ll reaffirm what you’ve always known: you’re hotter.
10. Call an old friend
The people who’ve known you forever remind you there was life before the break-up and there will be life again after. Sometimes a healthy dose of good-old-fashioned nostalgia brings you back to the present.