Sexting Snafu: You’re an awkward sexter.
Even with a solid effort and a slow start (as we advise) it can take a while to become a sextpert. If after a few back and forths you’re still unsuccessful, rethink your ways. Are you sticking true to your personality or does the technological divide turn you into an X-rated diva?
While one of the great parts of sexting is being able to let your guard down a bit, you shouldn’t stray too far from your regular sexy time ways. If you’re about to text something you wouldn’t dream of saying in-person in a million years, don’t. More often than not, it’ll come off as forced and clumsy, neither of which is a huge turn-on.
Rereading what you write before hitting send is another way to prevent an awkward situation. There’s nothing like an attempted sext being taken the wrong way. Make your initial statement simple but somewhat obvious in its attempt. “I need you” or “I’m hot” can be taken a million different ways, so steer clear of ambiguous phrases like those. The last thing you want is your boyfriend imagining you dripping with sweat when you reallywant him to heat things up with you.
Here are a few flirty sexts that are sure to get the flirt flowing — and not get misconstrued:
- “My roommates are going to be away this weekend. What should we do with the apartment all to ourselves?”
- “I finally tried that yoga class I was telling you about! I feel so flexible. Wonder how long it will last…”
- “I just finished reading the latest issue of Cosmo. So. Many. Ideas. Want to come over?”
Sexting Snafu: You’ve sexted him scandalous pictures, but now you’re broken up.
Let us reiterate: sexting some cheeky and slightly inappropriate words, though still risky, is far less incriminating than sexting some cheeky and slightly inappropriate pictures. But if you bold collegiettes havesent your guy a quick snap sans clothes, proceed with caution.
Unfortunately, there aren’t many legal defenses you can take. You voluntarily took and provided him with the photos, and, therefore, they’re now his. If the break-up was amicable, ask him to delete the photos you sent him. Chances are you guys swapped pictures, so he wouldn’t want to jeopardize himself just to spite you, right?
Keep things nice and straightforward with a phone call. Say something like, “I trust that you wouldn’t want to embarrass me or put my future in danger, but I would feel a lot more comfortable if you would permanently delete the pictures I sent you. They were private, and now that we aren’t together anymore I don’t think you need to have them. I hope you can respect that.” If all else fails, pull a Carrie Underwood, and take a Louisville slugger to both headlights.
With some practice and a little patience concerning the occasional snafu, you’ll be well on your way to becoming a certified sextpert! Have you sexted in the past? Did it go off without a hitch?