You should still give older guys a chance . . . Okay, so older guys may be afraid of commitment and looking for an ego boost. Should you rule them out because they’re older? No! Collegiette™ Rachel advises, “Don't ever turn a guy down because he's older. Judge the guy on his maturity and your connection – that's what matters!” And she’s right: you shouldn’t clump all older guys in the “stay away” category. Instead, assess each guy individually. You may end up finding a great, sincere older man.
“A girl should be wary of a guy who asks for her number because they don’t know what type of guy he is, not because he is older,” Stetson, 27, says. “I do not doubt there are guys who go out specifically looking for younger girls, but I do not think they make up the majority of older guys dating younger girls.”
And there are success stories out there: collegiette™ Nicole has been dating her boyfriend, Brad, since she graduated high school – and he is ten years older than she is! “[When we met,] I was 18 and he was 28,” Nicole says. “Sounds absolutely shocking, and it was to everyone, even me. But for us, age was just a number. When we were together, there were no barriers and no awkwardness. In a world where everyone is obsessed with finding romance, if two people can get along together and feel for each other, why not let it happen and enjoy it?”
… But beware of some of the issues
When you do decide to experiment with an older guy, make sure you’re aware of some of the dangers and the potential difficulties that may arise. Even Nicole’s boyfriend Brad, 31, admits that a lot of guys his age are not sincere in their motives when it comes to college girls.
“When [we] first started dating, I wasn't expecting too much due to the age difference and the distance we'd have between us,” Brad says. “Initially I was thinking she would be fun to ‘hook up’ with, nothing serious.”
Though their relationship did turn into something serious, it’s important to realize that some older guys may not have totally sincere motives – at least at first.
Anonymous older guy, 24, explains, “Being brutally honest, a lot of guys in their 20s know college girls working in a big city means there's really little commitment – summer will end, and they’ll go back to campus. That's not to say all guys are jerks and are on the hunt for college chicks over the summer as though it's rabbit season, but there are a ton of that kind out there.”
