Situation #3: Get Closure with An Ex-Boyfriend
Since you were probably really close to your boyfriend while the two of you dated, it’s only natural to want to continue to spend time with him after you break up. Many times, however, this is not the best idea for you or your ex-boyfriend. It stirs up old emotions and doesn’t make it easy for you to move on. With the end of the school year approaching, it’s time to make a move with your ex: either cut all ties or get back together, but make sure that you rid yourself of any and all ambiguity either way. Here’s how other girls dealt with their pesky ex-boyfriends:
“After going back and forth for awhile, talking and spending time together again then not hearing from him for awhile, I decided it was time to end all communication since we were both getting hurt,” says Elizabeth, a student at the University of Missouri. “I asked him to stop communicating with me so that I could move on. It was really hard at first, but I knew it was for the best so I stuck to it, and I am much happier now.”
“My ex-boyfriend and I were so off-and-on that it was difficult for me to actually move on from him,” says Melissa, a student at Indiana University. “I was so caught up in our relationship that I didn’t even realize we weren’t actually in one. Finally, I told him that I was done, and I stopped answering his texts and calls. It was abrupt, and he didn’t take it well, but I was finally able to move on with my life.”
“My ex and I continued to hang out and talk a lot after our break-up,” says Hannah, a student at the University of San Diego. “He was also hanging out with other girls, though, and that really hurt so I forced him to make a choice between being single or being committed to me. We got back together, and we have been happy ever since. I think putting my foot down showed him that he couldn’t treat me so poorly anymore.”
How do you follow their advice in your own life?
- Do what is best for you, and don’t worry so much about his feelings.
- Do stand up for yourself, and don’t allow him to treat you poorly.
- Do cut off all communication or get back together, and don’t be wishy-washy about what you want.
- Do ask for what you deserve, and don’t stand for anything less.
So there you have it, collegiettes. While uncertainty of any kind in a relationship can be a challenge, there are ways to make something happen in your relationship before the end of the semester. Just follow in the footsteps of your fellow collegiettes, and keep in mind our dos and don’ts, and you’ll have what you want in no time!