The Mind Games Collegiettes Play with Guys (& Why You Should Stop)

Posted Jul 11 2013 - 2:00pm
Tagged With: love

Scenario: He texts you, “Hey babe, what’s going on?” You’re lying in bed, watching an all-day marathon of The O.C., with no solid plans for the rest of the day.
 

Don’t: Look at his message right away but wait to text back until at least an hour and a half later.
 
Why: No, really – why? Why would you make him wonder and squirm for that long, when all that’s going on is the 600th downfall of Seth and Summer’s unrealistic high school romance? You want to appear busy, but when you respond much later with, “Nothing really. You?” the waiting game you played seems pointless.
 
Do: Write back, “Just catching up on some good ol’ O.C.reruns, but I kind of want to get out of the house. Do you want to do something?”
 
Why: Most guys don’t top their list of must-haves in a potential girlfriend with, “Busiest social butterfly with a million things to do,” so there’s no need to pretend that’s who you are. Telling him what you’re really up to presents the perfect opportunity to slide in an invitation to hang out. Plus, it’ll bypass all of the nervous one-word texts that are exchanged before someone actually gains the courage to ask the other out.

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Scenario: You two are on your doorstep after the best first date you’ve had in a long time. It’s obvious he’s going to lean in for a kiss in five, four, three, two...
 

Don’t: Turn your cheek.
 
Why: Your idea may be to make him want what he can’t have, but he’ll only think that your last four hours together were a disaster. If it truly is your policy to wait for at least the second date to kiss a guy, make the first move by leaning up to kiss him on the cheek and tell him what an amazing night you had. He’ll be able to tell you care, and you’ll be able to wait out a kiss until you’re ready.
 
Do: Go for it.
 
Why: We all know actions speak louder than words, so if you had a good time, by all means, show him. You’ll guarantee yourself a second date and a happy guy left wanting more of that breath-stealing smooch you planted on him.

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Scenario: You ran into your ex recently, and now he’s texting you and writing on your Facebook wall.
 
Don’t: Tell your boyfriend that your ex won’t stop talking to you, and you think he wants to get back together.
 
Why: Unless your goal is to create an insanely jealous beau, the suspicion that your ex may want to get back together is an embellishment you don’t want to add to your story. If Mr. Wrong from a year ago has been talking to you but never actually said he wants to be a “we” again, telling your boyfriend he does won’t make your guy more attracted to you; instead, it’ll create trust issues that you don’t want or need.
 
Do: Let your boyfriend know about your blast from the past, so he doesn’t find out about it via your Facebook.
 
Why: Everyone has a past, and just because yours includes a few relationships doesn’t mean you have anything to hide. Tell your guy the truth (without any unnecessary speculation). There may still be a little jealousy on his end – after all, what guy wouldn’t be a little nervous about the possibility of losing you? But by keeping things on the up and up, you’ll prevent a small secret from turning into relationship-ending lie.

Scenario: You’re definitely not ready to go all the waywith him yet, but boy are his kisses getting steamier and sexier.

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Don’t: Let him unhook your bra, put his hand up your skirt or do anything else that would lead him to believe he’s gettin’ some tonight.
 
Why: Sure, there are some guys (okay, maybe just a few) that like to please their ladies more than they like to be pleasured themselves. But by allowing him to do things to you and then holding out when it’s ‘his turn,’ you’re bestowing upon yourself one of the worst labels a collegiette™ can have: a tease. Without an explanation from you, the fact that you’re letting him skip some bases with you leads him to believe you’re comfortable doing the same with him.
 
Do: Stop him before things get even hotter and heavier and tell him that you aren’t quite ready to take that step.
 
Why: If a guy can’t respect you’re morals (especially when it comes to the bedroom), he’s not worth trying to keep around, anyway. Tell him the truth about why you’ve been holding out, though, and he could be more understanding of how you feel. Plus, letting him in on your thoughts about the subject may make you two closer and more comfortable with each other.

 
So, collegiettes, now it’s time to spill. Have you ever been guilty of playing mind games on your guy? How did it turn out?
 
 
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