Admit it. You’ve been checking your phone about every 30 seconds waiting for a text. You’ve walked by the frats four times today just to “get some exercise.” You’ve even staked out a table at the main dining hall from 4-7 pm waiting for “no one in particular” to come get his daily dose of chicken fried rice from the Pan-Asian Cuisine station. Enough, already! Even the sneakiest of collegiettesTM can’t hide it when they’re head-over-heels-NUTS for a guy. There are subtler (and more effective) ways to show interest in that soccer-playing stud, and showing up at his dorm unannounced isn’t one of them. So what constitutes SSB (Serious Stalking Behavior)?
Put the phone away, B!
|Too Much||Just Right|
|The Early Stages (One Hookup or Less)||Texting him three times in one night to see what he’s doing.||Responding coyly to his late night text with “ohh, sorry just turned in for bed. sweet dreams ;)”|
|The Casual Hookup (3-6 Encounters in the Past 2-3 Weeks)||Hanging all over him at a party, signaling all other girls to BACK OFF.||Making understated but intimate contact when you’re talking to him (like resting your hand on his shoulder or arm), but then continuing to circulate throughout the room.|
|Delving into Dating (Hooking Up + At Least One Sober Hangout)||Texting him throughout the day to update him on what you’re thinking about, who you saw today, what kind of nail polish you might apply…||Texting him when something reminds you of a funny inside joke you two have—it’s the perfect “I’m thinking about you but I’m not obsessed” move.|
|On the Brink of Exclusivity (You Haven’t Had “The Talk” But You Aren’t Seeing Anyone Else)||Forcing “The Talk” without any real discussion, e.g.,: “So you’re like basically my boyfriend, right???”||Casually mentioning you haven’t been seeing anyone else. If he wants to make the move to an exclusive relationship, he should take the conversation from there.|
|He’s Your Boyfriend (Woohoo!)||Saying “Oh my God I can’t wait for you to meet my Mom!!” two weeks into the relationship.||Introducing him around to your friends the next time you’re all out together—he’ll feel like a stud (you’re showing him off!) and it’s a low-pressure sitch.|
Keep it casual like Lauren and Kyle!
So there you have it girls—never fall into the stalking rut again! A collegietteTM stays cool, calm, and collected in the face of unadulterated cuteness . . . let him come to you.