What He Thinks of What You Order
We want to take this crop of boys out on a date. 80 percent of them said you won’t lose points based on what you order for dinner. Jim, Syracuse University 12, said he doesn’t care what you pick, “but it takes guts to order spaghetti on a first date and slurp through it!” He’s got a point. An anonymous guy from Ohio University says, “Just don’t order a burger bigger than mine – I’ll feel less manly.” The other 20 percent of guys? They’re not fans of picky eaters. If you’re thinking of ordering the taco salad, but without the tortilla chips, no tomatoes please and turkey instead of ground beef, and dressing on the side... just pick something else.
Who Should Pay
We repeat: we want to take this crop of boys out on a date. 90 percent of them said they’ve got the check covered. Forrest, Syracuse University ’12, said, “Just let me pay – it’s my treat for getting to spend time with you.” As you wish, Forrest. Even though they plan on paying, 35 percent of these guys want you to at least offer. Usually you don’t even have to say anything, just reach for your wallet or purse, and he should tell you it’s on him. Lenny, Stanford University ’13, said, “I usually pay for the meal, but it’s nice if she offers to pay the tip.” It’s a good way to show you enjoyed spending time with him as well.
If He Expects a Kiss
The answers for this one varied, but usually, if you give him a kiss (of any proportion) at the end, it means you’ve enjoyed the date. Jason, George Washington University ’14, said he doesn’t need anything wild, “just a peck to know she’s into me.” Lenny, Stanford University ’13, said that in order to make it to a second date, a kiss is required. “A little one, nothing big, but something.” For him, a kiss determines if you’re game for going out again or just headed for the friend list. Take your pick, ladies.
What He’s Thinking at the End of the Date
These boys definitely know how to end a date the right way. If the date went well, most of these guys hint at planning date number two – vital if both want to see each other again. Brian, Clemson University ’14, says he won’t necessarily plan date number two right away, but he “definitely makes hints” about it. Our anonymous Exeter University boy says he’ll lightly mention meeting up again. Jim, Syracuse University ’12, says he’ll try saying, “This was fun. We should do this again sometime,” and then see how she responds. Forrest, Syracuse University ’12, says, “At the goodbye, a simple mention of date two will let her know where I stand.”
By the answers of these boys, it’s clear that at the end of the date, he’s probably doing a bit of mind and body language reading in an attempt to gauge how much you’re into him without putting all his feelings on the line. You’re probably being careful with your own reactions – trying not to blurt out, “You’re so adorable, can we can hang out tomorrow?!” before you know he even wants a second date. The best thing to do at this point in the date game is to decide where you stand. If he mentions hanging out again or a date number two, you know he’s (even just a little) into you.
On any first date, we’re usually too excited – or nervous – to stay relaxed and let the conversation flow. Keep in mind, though, that the whole point of the first date is to get to know each other, have fun, and find out if you’re interested in hanging out with each other again. On top of this, there has to be mutual interest. The only way to find out if you mesh well together is by staying true to yourself and trying to relax and enjoy the date. If he does the same, you’ll both have a better idea of if you want to take a chance on date number two.