How do I make sure he never finds out?
The answer is simple: don’t blab your conquests to everyone you encounter. Even if you don’t tell people you’re hooking up with two or more guys, there are other ways for word to get around.
Shannon* from California State University, Long Beach says, “Don't date his friends, don’t talk about other guys in front of him, and don’t get in the habit of conversing with either guy via text.” Aside from texting, the many other technological pastimes we have at our fingertips are just accidents waiting to happen. If he leaves a flirty comment on your Facebook wall or someone tweets a picture of you two looking awfully cuddly, you can probably kiss everyone else goodbye.
“The nature of this is that girls don’t want guys to figure out what they are doing. The double standard in that is inherent,” Shield reminds us. “If you are behaving in a way that you don’t want other people to know about, you should look at the behavior and ask if this is really what you want to be doing.”
To hook up or not to hook up – that’s the real question.
Maybe you will try it, and maybe you won’t (or maybe you already have!). But the most important thing to remember is to be safe, physically and emotionally. Hooking up with more than one guy can be fun, exhilarating even, but if you’re hooking up with more than one guy, there’s a big chance he is hooking up with more than one person, too. And if one of the other girls captures his heart, your emotions could catch up to you – leaving you heartbroken.
There can also be serious repercussions if you aren’t protected (in the more obvious way). Do your part and make sure your guys are doing theirs. If you aren’t his only hook-up buddy, you can’t account for what the other girls are bringing to the bedroom. As your gym teachers, your overbearing aunts and numerous PSAs have told you many a time, “No glove, no love.”
*Name and school has been changed.
Lisa Shield, Transformational Dating and Relationship Coach [link: http://www.lisashield.com/index.php]
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