While everyone wants to experience a little bit of summer lovin’, not all of our beach-born relationships are suited to last through September, reaching a climax à la Grease that involves a fun house, a skin-tight spandex unitard with bright red stilettos, and a flying convertible. Nope—not even Danny and Sandy’s adorable “we-made-it-work-and-now-we’ll-always-be-together” story can convince us that every summer fling is meant to turn into the real thing. Instead, we’re a little bit more into the sentiment that perhaps a fling should remain just that—short, exciting and ending on an “up” as opposed to a long, dramatic, emotional breakdown. Disagree? Hear us out on a few reasons why your summer fling might be better off staying just that.
He's not someone you want to bring home to mom and dad.
You know they won’t approve, so why start something more serious with a guy who will never get your parents’ “OK”? Whatever the reason for their skepticism – his intelligence, his inability to dress himself in clothes that match or his lack of conversation skills – if he’s not exactly your parents’ cup of tea, you might question whether he’s really worth more than a casual summer fling.
You know he won’t mesh well with your friends back at school.
While over the summer you might have a lot of one-on-one time, that probably won’t be the case come September. Of course, as school begins, there’s a lot more to juggle. Work, extracurriculars, clubs, any other school-related activities, plus making time for friends and a boyfriend can get to be a little much. What’s more, if your girlfriends who have met him over the summer don’t love to hang out with him, there might be trouble coming your way. If your friends can’t be around him, you’ll find yourself having to choose between them too often.
He's not "boyfriend" material, as far as your standards are concerned.
“If he was [insert impossible-to-achieve trait here] then he’d be perfect.” Yep, we all know that feeling. Unfortunately, though, simply wishing that he would just gain that one characteristic you think is missing won’t make him the (near-)perfect boyfriend. If he has habits and qualities that tend to make you cringe, it’s definitely time to let go and move on to something that’s more fulfilling. Even so, if he’s just not everything you’re looking for in a guy, the end of summer is the time to get over it and get on with it, so you can find a guy who is.