3. Find Your Courage
“If a girl comes up to me and starts a conversation (when she had seemed shy during a first meeting) I would find that really flattering. I would probably just assume that I had caught her off guard the first time and I’d admire that she was giving it a second go.” –Michael, senior, Drake University
“If a girl is super shy, I don’t want her to change her personality and force her to be someone she isn’t. I would just ask that she try her best to open up and get to know me better too.” –Ben, senior, University of Missouri
Tip: Have a few small talk-y questions prepared if a cute guy approaches you. Don’t be afraid to answer a few questions yourself, either. And don’t worry if you feel yourself blushing – your rosy cheeks will only make you look cuter!
4. Be Genuine and Don’t Focus on the Negative
“The best way for a girl to prove to me that she isn’t [dramatic] is by being consistent. If you go out of your way with some grand gesture to prove you’re a nice person, it’s going to seem phony. Start with small and random acts of kindness here and there to show that you’re consistently nice to people and that it isn’t just an act. And please, for God’s sake, do NOT talk about your friends behind their back around me. I will literally run away.” –Danny, junior, Mississippi State University
Tip: The easiest way to show you aren’t a drama queen is also the most obvious: try not to focus on the negative. It’s normal to feel anger or jealousy towards another collegiette from time to time, but it takes an awesome collegiette to put that negativity in its place and avoid spreading it around.
5. He Needs To Work For It
“Any genuine girl that meets a guy would make him pursue her a little and spend a lot of time with him before deciding if he’s good for her or not. If I sense that a girl is ready to marry me after just a few minutes, she definitely hasn’t tried hard enough.” –Ben, senior, University of Missouri
Tip: It’s fun to think about wedding bells and babies, but don’t undervalue yourself by making it seem like you’ll get hitched to the first guy in line! As a collegiette, you have time to be picky about finding the right one for you (and so does he)—enjoy it!
The bottom line: whether it’s fair or not, sometimes our actions or appearances cause the guys we meet to label or stereotype us. Many times, the fact that he’s making judgments about you means that you should run for the hills. But, if you meet a guy that is really special but you somehow give off a bad first impression, it’s definitely possible to turn things around so that he can get to know the real you!