Love can make us do crazy things, especially the kind of unrequited love that occurs during a one-sided crush. We might think these are innocent behaviors that bring us one step closer to our happily ever afters, but they aren’t. If your crushes are always running for the hills, it’s not him, it’s you. Let Her Campus fill you in on 11 reasons why this may be the case.
1. You text him 5 minutes after he gives you his number.
And when he doesn’t answer, you text him again and again and again. “Where are you? Want to hang out? Come get me. Hello. Where are you? Why are you ignoring me?” He’s ignoring you because you’re acting like a crazy person. If he doesn’t answer you the first five times, he’s not going to answer you the sixth time either. No matter how hard you want to try again, remember that double (and triple, and quadruple) texting is a big no-no. Chris, a sophomore at Michigan State University, shares his story: “I went out on a date with this one girl and she legit texted me nonstop wanting to hang out every single day, even when I didn’t respond to some.” Stalker!
2. You like every single one of his profile pics.
Not only will he see how obsessed you are, but so will his 1,052 friends. It’s one thing to stalk him in private, but another to publicly display your interest in him. Do yourself and everyone else a favor and hide him from your newsfeed. When you can’t see his new shirtless pic, you won’t be tempted to keep over-liking (or continue to embarrass yourself). “I had just gotten home from a night out and my friend and I thought it would be fun to look through every one of my crush’s profile pics all the way back to his preteen days. We liked everything—from his baby face pictures to his first high school dance,” says Gina, a junior at Western Michigan University. Hopefully your crush will notice you did the liking in the middle of the night and blame it on the alcohol, but if he doesn’t he’s sure to get freaked out when he sees you liked pictures of him skiing, posing with his preschool friend, waiting in line at Disney World…
3. You show him your Pinterest wedding board.
Guys already hate Pinterest enough, and when you combine it with a discussion of your future marriage and children, he will want to run away and never talk to you again. Think of how you would feel if he made you sit through his entire Fantasy Football draft. If you make this terrible mistake of showing him the cake, napkins, and flowers that will be at your wedding, you should probably start making a future cat lady Pinterest board.
4. You get caught stalking his Facebook profile in a large lecture.
Facebook stalking can be fun and sometimes even necessary (when you do it in the comforts of your own home), but that point when you get bored during lecture is not the time to do it. You never know who’s sitting near you and spying on your screen. “This one time I was sitting in class and I was creeping on my crush. By creeping I mean looking at every single photo that he has ever had. I get a Facebook message, so begrudgingly I leave his photos (I was in pretty deep too) to see who messaged me. It was him. He was sitting behind me because he came in late to class. He told me he was flattered. I hurried up and closed my laptop and we never talked about it again,” says Haven, a freshman at Chatham University.
5. You hook up with another guy… right in front of him
You’re not technically dating so it’s okay to see what other options are around, but try to be discreet about it. If you have any idea that he might show up where you are, keep your flirting to a minimum. Kissing another guy right in front of him might be the behavior of choice for a jealous girlfriend, but not for a girl like you who is trying to make him into your boyfriend.“I invited this guy over and he was taking too long to get to my place so I called up my other crush who showed up right away. The two of us headed back to his place and started making out along the way, right as the original guy pulled up,” says Michelle*, a junior at the University of Michigan. There’s really no easy way out for this one. You could deny the whole thing and tell your first crush he was just seeing things, you could call over your first crush and ask him to join you two, or you could just wait until you get to the bedroom if a situation like this ever happens again.
6. You change your Facebook status to “in a relationship” after a week of talking to him.
You think guys move too fast? You don’t want to be the one to jump the gun before you’ve even gone on a real date (and no, randomly falling into each other at the bar does not count). In his eyes, you might be just another booty call. He might even think your new relationship is with another guy, in which case he will probably just stop returning your calls. When people start liking your new relationship status, the damage will already be done. Save yourself the embarrassment and change your relationship status in real life before you do it on the Internet.
