8 Things No One Ever Told You About Sex

“Did you hear? Zak and Sara totally did it on the 50-yard line last night. I heard she was so loud campus security came running.”
 
Yup, it happens. People can be loud during sex. Really loud. Actually, there’s a lot of things we don’t know about sex because we’ve never been shown the more challenging or embarrassing aspects of it. As much as we would like it to be, sex isn’t always like the movies—it’s not smooth and perfect, it’s not seamless. In fact, it can get quite messy (literally and figuratively).
 
According to Rachel Maulding, a doctoral candidate in Human Sexuality at Widener University, sex “isn't necessarily what we were told it was growing up.” Maulding continues, “I see so many women around me struggling with heartache and unfulfilling sex and I know that I can help them through strong sex education.” So Maulding joins Her Campus here to clear up a few things for when you think about or do “it”—the things no one ever told you.
 
Women Ejaculate, Too!
Happy, sweaty, and out of breath, you and your bedmate are now very much satisfied. But then... wait, are you peeing? What’s happening? Why is that warm and wet business happening down below?
 
“Most women are shocked the first time they ejaculate and are instantly embarrassed or concerned they just urinated on their partner.  And some partners are ignorant enough and tell the woman it is pee and gross.” But that’s not the way it is. “Please hear me,” Maulding pleads, “it is NOT pee or gross.” In fact, it’s really quite the opposite. “Female ejaculation is perfectly normal and happens to many women. Women can produce between two tablespoons to two cups of fluid and it is clear in color, bitter citrus in smell, and slippery to touch. Don't be ashamed if you ejaculate, in fact, be happy!” In other words, don’t get mad, get glad! Very glad.
 
Something else to note is that while all women can ejaculate, not everyone does.  After you have an orgasm, you might feel like you have to pee, so you’ll “hold it.” According to Dr. Lisa Lawless of the Holistic Wisdom Spa, what’s actually happening is “the G-Spot (Skenes Glands) fill up with the female ejaculate fluid and this puts pressure on the urethra (pee-tube) thus making it feel like she has to urinate when in actuality she could ejaculate if she simply pushed instead of holding back.” How’s that for science?