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So, You Want to Buy Your First Vibrator – Here’s What You Need to Know

Around middle school, during your “developing years,” someone undoubtedly sat you down for a talk about the birds and the bees. Maybe your mom whipped out The Care and Keeping of You and you squirmed at how awkward everything felt. During high school, a friend of yours lost their virginity and you had a million questions for them. Yet, oddly enough, throughout these pivotal years of your life, no one ever mentioned vibrators.

Once you’re in college, the topic of sex tends to become a little less taboo and a lot more relevant than before. Why, then, is it often so difficult to bring up the subject of vibrators? Why is pleasuring yourself too vulnerable of a subject? Let’s face it: if you’re a vibrator virgin, you have questions. So let’s talk through them.

Do other college students really use vibrators?

Absolutely! When I asked college women in my community if they own a vibrator, 65% said yes. A few might have started as gag gifts, but worry not — they’ve since been put to good use. The average usage seems to be once or twice a week, but all ends of the spectrum are certainly covered.

I’m too nervous to purchase a vibrator in person. How else can I get one?

You might not feel ready to deal with knowing looks from passersby and badly masked smirks from store associates when buying a vibrator. Lucky for you, there are a couple of other options, namely online shopping. When you have a way bigger selection to choose from and the only thing staring at you is your computer screen, it’s hard not to go for this appealing alternative. Online sex toy boutiques like Babeland.com and unboundbabes.com provide pages upon pages of vibrators with detailed descriptions of everything you’ve wanted to know, but have been too nervous to ask about. Babeland’s co-founder, Claire Cavanah, started her store for just that reason. “Online shopping is a blush-free experience,” she says. 
“It can be done in the privacy of your own room at any time of day or night. We have extensive resources and information about toys, safety, and how-tos.”

There are so many options. Which vibrator should I buy?

First decide what you want your experience to be like: traditional, quick, with a partner, or something else. Oh, the decisions! Then, check out some vibrator recommendations below. 

vibrator product image from babeland.com
Photo Courtesy of babeland.com

Pleasurette, babeland.com, $22.99; shop now

vibrator product image from babeland.com
Photo Courtesy of babeland.com
Unity Silicone Vibrator, babeland.com, $47.99; shop no​w

vibrator product image from babeland.com
Photo Courtesy of babeland.com
Sona 2 Clitoral Stimulator, babeland.com, $109.99; sho​p no​w

Thoughts and Stories from Vibrator Sexperts

The giggly, nerve-wracking first purchase may be over for you, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t still a few laughs to be had and thoughts to be shared. Why can the topic of vibrators seem so off-limits and uncomfortable? Close friends often share tons of details about their sex lives with each other. But, vibrators? Many say, “No way, not going there.” Well — hopefully not for too much longer, if the people below have anything to say about it!

“It’s pretty embarrassing because it makes us sound crazy and kinky. But now I think of it as a positive thing, because it’s me taking control of my own pleasure and I don’t need to depend on anyone. It makes me more of the independent person I want to be.” – Jenna, UC Irvine

“It’s an open joke that men jerk off. Girls are too good to do that? NO! We need pleasure as well. Guys just need to realize we can get the job done, too.” – Aubrey, California State Polytechnic University, Pomona

“There’s a long history of masturbation being viewed as a bad or taboo topic because it involves purely sexual pleasure with no intention of reproduction. Today, it’s still a touchy subject, but it’s kind of expected of guys. Women, though, aren’t supposed to even notice that they have sexuality until they lose their virginity. So, many people are very bothered by the thought of girls taking their sexuality into their own hands (literally!)” – Hannah, University of Michigan

Basically, vibrators are supposed to benefit you, not make you stress and worry. Rest assured you aren’t the only person on the planet who has ever bought one, used one, talked about one, or had an embarrassing moment with one. So, let’s bring an end to the time spent fretting about vibrator habits and embrace them. Capiche? Capiche.

Sarah Weinberg is a student at San Diego State University, Class of 2012. She is attempting to overcome her aversion to multitasking as she pursues courses in Liberal Studies, Spanish, and Journalism. Sarah has always been interested in the “behind-the-scenes” aspects of the fashion and lifestyle industry with journalism being a prominent prospective path. Now, much of the time that she should spend working on homework and writing papers is instead spent pouring through magazines and lusting over ridiculously priced shoes, impeccably styled pictorials, and the glamorous lifestyles of the cover models. It isn’t unusual to find Sarah baking (anything with a large amount of chocolate), traveling (last stop: summer abroad in Granada, Spain), playing in her closet (never too old to play dress up), or hanging out with friends and family (how cute and cliché). She is currently a Style Guru for CollegeFashionista.com and is thrilled to become a writer for Her Campus.