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Real Live College Guy Ryan: How Do I Know If My Hook-up Wants to See Me Again?

Need Dr. Drew relationship advice but don’t have the sensationalistic drama to warrant TV time? Unfortunately, Real Live College Guy Ryan isn’t a reality show therapist. However, he can provide the lowdown on everything you’ve ever wanted to know about college males: how they think, act, speak and genuinely interact with the women in their lives.

I was set up with a date for formal and we really hit it off. The next night I saw him at a frat party and we danced together and I ended up hooking up with him (making out, not sex) and spent the night spooning with him. Which was all fine and fabulous, but when I left I hugged him, he kissed me, and then said, “I’ll see you around.” Does this mean that he actually wants to see me or wants to return to our previous anonymity? Because I figured with all the cuddling (we both woke up at least an hour before I had to leave and just cuddled some more, he didn’t kick me out or anything) and the kiss when I left means that he’s interested or would like to repeat the night, but I just don’t know how to interpret what he said – Hooked on Language at LSU

According to the be-all, end-all source of information, Wikipedia, “I’ll see you around” is an example of a “parting phrase.” Other parting phrases include—but are not limited to—“take it easy,” “toodles,” and my personal favorite, “deuces.” He could’ve used any of the aforementioned four (or any other colloquialism) and still meant the same thing: bye.

Does he want to see you again? Probably. But you’re not going to determine if your cuddle session was just a one-night thing by deciphering his linguistic options when bidding you adieu. You just won’t.

Here are your clues that he probably wants to see you again: he didn’t get in your pants and then kick you to the curb. Those are two good indications that he’s interested. He also seems like he’s expressive and potentially sensitive, as the goodbye kiss and spooning would indicate.

Give him a call, text or Facebook message to see what he’s up to. But show him you’re interested and take the initiative. If “I’ll see you around” means anything, it’s probably just his cool way of saying “goodbye.” Chances are he’s also interested, but he doesn’t want to be too expressive or too emotional too quick.

So long as he’s not telling you to “scram,” then there’s no interpretation necessary. He more than likely wouldn’t mind seeing you again. Act upon it.

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Ryan Joseph is fancy. However, besides being fancy, he is also a) a college senior b) a journalism major and c) a student at the E.W. Scripps School of Journalism at Ohio University. He's a Bobcat, not a Buckeye (although he will always be a Buckeye at heart). A Columbus, Ohio, native, he's a diehard music and Cleveland sports fan--don't judge him based upon the latter. He is a frequent contributor to Hip-Hop website, The Smoking Section, and Ohio University campus magazine, Backdrop, but has also been an ASME 2011 intern with Field & Stream Magazine in New York City.
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