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Real Live College Guy: Do Guys Overlook Modest Girls?

We all need a little guidance now and then, so whether you’re stressed about a fling gone wrong, a wrecked relationship or how to handle a stage-five clinger, Real Live College Guy Jon is here to help you navigate the college dating scene!

Hey Real Live College Guy, how important is modesty to you? I see a lot of girls that just want to show off their bodies but I know mine is valuable and special, not for everyone to see. Do guys really value a woman who knows her worth? – Aware of my Worth

Aware of my Worth –

I wish I could tell you all men value a woman who is modest like yourself, but I cannot. There are many college guys who will overlook you. Some men will always choose the girl showing off her body over the girl who is modestly dressed. There are superficial guys and there are superficial girls, both of who fail to realize what they could be missing out on.

Luckily, not all guys are superficial like that. I would like to think I recognize a woman’s value well beyond her appearance or promiscuity. Recently I fell for a girl and found the more I got to know her, beyond the superficial, the more I fell for her. By simply talking and getting to know one another better, she showed me how extraordinary she really was—it was a privilege to see that. There are other guys like me out there who feel the same way. When you find a guy who recognizes how special you are, your modesty will be well rewarded. 

Knowing your value is attractive. It’s important to understand your own inherent value in order to pursue and reach your full potential. If you can show your significance without bragging or putting others down, you are going to get the attention of the kind of guys who are worth your time. The only men that will be scared off by your value are immature and feel threatened. Remember your value—everyone needs to understand how much they can bring to a relationship.



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Jon is currently a senior at the University of Rhode Island double majoring in physics and biology with an intent of going to medical school.  He also spent two semesters at in exchange program at California Polytechnic University. Growing up in Rhode Island he loves being on the water and the bay is his second home. Spearfishing and freediving are two of his favorite hobbies.   Follow him @RIBORNRIBRED on Instagram. 
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